Family Bathroom Has No Toilet

Looking for some wisdom from someone with kids.

I'm looking a bigger home but the main bathroom which is connected to two bedrooms doesn't have a toilet in it. The closest toilet is about 8-12m away up the hallway in the main living room.

Is this a big nono as I assume you would want the toilet close to the kids bedrooms to avoid accidents all up the hallway?

Update 8/12 - I have let the house go, couldn't get past no toilet being near the main bathroom of the house. Thanks for all the comments!! Can't wait for my kids to poop in a shower :P

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  • +13
    • -3

      Unborn yet, figment of my imagination. Maybe 2 years off

    • +11

      We should not settle for houses built with toilets so far from the bathroom and placed in the main living room.

    • +1

      JV is right. Spare a thought for people renting in Sydney:

      https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2022/oct/15/potty…

      • -3

        How can you stir the pasta while on the dunny with all that glass in the way?

      • " In this apartment, your business becomes everybody’s business."

        There is no way this "apartment" can accommodate more than one desperate individual. Therefore, there is no "everybody"… there is no one else… Who would invite someone to come over?

    • Don't we all live in the 1st world?

  • +22

    How old are your kids? Is there a basin in the toilet?

    Personally I think toilets that aren’t in bathrooms are the way to go, but 8-12 m up the hallway is a bit far. Separate toilets should be next to the bathroom. Whoever designed that place is an idiot.

    • +2

      Someone who thinks it's ok to pee in the shower (or waffle stomp) designed it, by the sounds of it.

      Granted, I've been house hunting lately, there have been a couple of places where the toilet is in/adjacent to the laundry rather than the bathroom. And it totally put me off buying those houses.

      • In the laundry is a bit weird. Why did it put you off?

        • +9

          Taking a dump is a pretty important part of my day, having the spin cycle going off next to me is very disruptive to me finding my zen (this is only somewhat joking, current house has two toilets, one hanging off the laundry. Sometimes I avoid that one while the laundry is running)

          Just seems like a bad design and weird which isn't something I want where I live, I want my house to feel "normal". It's also particularly hard to fix down the line at some point, anything involving plumbing (like reworking a bathroom) tends to be particularly expensive.

          • +1

            @freefall101: Ah haha fair enough. Yeah good point about repairs or renovating. It’s sad how stupidly designed some places can be.

            I guess when developers are interviewing designers/architects they should ask them about their toilet habits. I’m sure some people born here and even people who migrate here probably think sh*tting in the shower is fine.

          • +5

            @freefall101:

            having the spin cycle going off next to me is very disruptive to me finding my zen

            Isn't that better, the washing machine can drown out any other noises.

      • +5

        (or waffle stomp)

        I gag everytime i read this phrase lol

        Peeing in the shower is fine tho

      • +1

        and it totally put me off buying those houses.

        You do realise theres these people called Plumbers?

        Our house was exactly as you describe. Had a main bathroom with no toilet, and the toilet was attached to the laundry on the other side of the house. 1950 calling.

        But on a closer look, there was room for a toilet in the bathroom, and there was suitable pipes already nearby. So it cost us about $500 to have a toilet installed by a Plumber. Pretty minor compared to how much houses cost.

        • +3

          Why would you assume I’ve not heard of plumbers instead of assuming it wasn’t feasible in the houses I looked at?

          • -2

            @freefall101:

            it wasn’t feasible in the houses I looked at.

            Are you a Plumber

            • +5

              @stumo: I am a person with eyes who can see if there is space in the bathroom for a toilet.

              • -3

                @freefall101: There are actually rules about how much clearance from this and that is required. So just having eyes isnt enough.

                • +1

                  @stumo: If a toilet won't physically fit how on early does the clearance matter?

                  Do you work for some kind of plumber lobby group?

                  • -1

                    @freefall101: A bathroom would have to be microscopic to not be able to fit a toilet even with no clearance.

      • There’s two types of people in this world, one who pee in shower and Lier. Which one is you?

    • +1

      Maybe the house wasn’t connected to the sewer system originally. Many houses built before 1960 had a toilet in the backyard. These houses today (after sewer systems were installed in that suburb) normally have a toilet added somewhere towards the back of the house, quite a distance from the front bedroom.

      • Yep. I used to live in a student house were the toilet was at the back of the house at the back door right next to a big concrete block (which we eventually realised was the old septic tank). You can do walk through the kitchen to get to the toilet. It was fine for us, but in hindsight it was unconventional.

        • Same here as a student.

          Unconventional now, but completely normal for the time the house was built. There would have been thousands exactly the same. Terrace style. Bedrooms at the front, long hallway down one side then living, dining and kitchen and loo out the back.

  • +3

    Problem Solved.
    Put one in each room.

  • +11

    You don't put the toilet in a "family" bathroom! That stops anyone else using the toilet, which they might want to do now, when someone else is using the bathroom, which they might want to take a while in.

    Yes, its OK in an ensuite, but not a a family bathroom.

    But you're right that you don't want it too far away either, because you want the kids to wash their hands after they use the toilet.

    • +1

      You don't put the toilet in a "family" bathroom!

      Laughs in property developer

      Maybe in 10-20 years we’ll start seeing bathrooms with two toilets in them.

    • +8

      Should always have a basin in the room as the toilet.

  • +7

    I'd be more concerned about the number of toilets available than where they are. Sometimes you just can't have enough toilets - especially with kids.

  • +1

    It's a bit odd for them to be that far disconnected, but I wouldn't call it a showstopper solely for the reasons you're getting at. In my kids' experience, it's not the distance to the toilet that is the cause of accidents. I've had this happen whether we've been out in public, sitting in some part of the house, or when they're sleeping in a room with an ensuite.

    The brain signal to get the toilet either processes or it doesn't is how I would describe it. The couple of seconds to get from here to there is rarely the difference.

    • +1

      My kids wait until the last possible second to go to the toilet, so something as simple as the seat being down can be an issue. I'm not sure why they don't get up 20 seconds earlier.

      • +1

        Thought process isn’t part of it. You either need to go or you don’t. When you do need to go it’s NOW!

  • +4

    .I'm looking a bigger home but the main bathroom which is connected to two bedrooms doesn't have a toilet in it.

    Isn't the obvious answer to just find another place that's more suitable for your family?

    Is this a big nono as I assume you would want the toilet close to the kids bedrooms to avoid accidents all up the hallway?

    I'm not sure why it matters whether it's a yes or no from everyone else here - you're the one that's going to be living in there with your family.

  • +11

    The closest toilet is about 8-12m away up the hallway in the main living room

    This seems like a bigger design problem to me.

    Really though, who builds a bathroom without a toilet either in it or next to it? That's just weird. Unless you can reconfigure it (and you want to spend money doing that), I would just look elsewhere.

    • Really though, who builds a bathroom without a toilet either in it or next to it?

      Idiots who don’t think before they do things like design a house for other people to live in.

    • in the main living room

      It's obviously been designed by someone who doesn't want to miss a second of the big game or a movie nut etc. Would be interesting to see the reaction of guests.

    • Chances are it's a property built pre-1980's and OP just hasn't elaborated.

      Very common for toilet to be located near laundry while bathroom was near bedrooms or kitchen.

    • This seems like a bigger design problem to me.

      Problem? More like big brain thinking! Here I am occasionally thinking it might be nice to mount a TV in the toilet. This is genius, just move the toilet into the living room! I'm on the phone to an emergency plumber right now.

  • +1

    They can pee in the shower or bathtub if it's an emergency. Otherwise it should take care of itself once they are fully toilet trained. In the meantime you might have to keep putting pull ups on them or buying a wetness alarm for their bed. If that's the only major issue with the home and you love everything else about it then go for it.

    • +1

      They can pee in the shower or bathtub if it's an emergency.

      Or the basin too.

  • +1

    I hadn't thought of putting them in the basin! Great idea. No bathtub in house either.

    • +3

      Anything with a drain is fair game! Don’t forget the kitchen sink too!

      • +1

        Why stop at the drain..

        Any surface, at any time..

      • +1

        Don't forget it's fine to go in the garden too!

        • not if you live within 100m of a creek, its illegal to pee let alone snap one off

          so ive been told, could not verify it and could not be bothered trying to.

      • +1

        Bathrooms have a drain in the middle of the floor. Just teach the kids to aim.

    • No bathtub should be the bigger issue if you're planning to have kids

  • +1

    Are your kids disabled? A distance of 8-12m could be traversed in less than 5 minutes depending on the stride length of the little ones.

    • +3

      Unless they're missing limbs, pretty sure even crawling baby can travel 8-12m in less than 5 minutes. 5 minutes is a really long time though when you're a kid who's busting for a wee.

      The problem isn't the time, it's the distance. The assumption is fluids are already coming out and being 8-12 metres away means 8-12 metres of cleaning to be done.

  • +1

    FFS. Just make a decision.

  • +7

    The closest toilet is about 8-12m

    Oh no… better bulldoze the place and build a new one

  • +6

    The toilet is in the living room??

    • +1

      Yep, that was my key highlight from the post too..

    • lmao I read it the same way

    • Perfect if the beer fridge is there too, barely need to move

  • Pee in shower

    Probably a kit you can buy on ebay

  • The closest toilet is about 8-12m away

    Oh no! Call child services. Better than in the bathroom, and your sister locks the door for half an hour.

    When the kids are little, you can keep a potty in the bathroom.

    • Thanks!

  • +2

    Imagine raising children back in the days without an indoor toilet. How did they cope?

    • Done that. Lived in subzero area in NSW with only an outside dunny. You learn to pee quick and dump during the day.

  • I'm looking a bigger home but the main bathroom which is connected to two bedrooms doesn't have a toilet in it.

    Brady Bunch house?

  • +2

    does the bathroom have a drain on the floor, problem solved.

  • I also just leased a new house. The toilet doesn't have a basin. The nearest sink has a bit of walk. I was wondering if there's a way to get a basin installed in the toilet room. Something like the Japanese toilets where they have a small basin on top of the toilet tank. I couldn't find a DIY option or anyone in Aus that does that.

    • sink where the waste flow straight into the top of the cistern. The excess water will just flow into the toilet anyway.

      • That sounds like a good idea to save water. So I bet it is against code in Australia :-)

        You may need to DIY, or get a handyman. Would need to be a low cistern though, as the bottom of basin needs to be above max level of cistern.

      • Cheers for sharing this. Kind of on the expensive range for me

    1. Get them to go before shower/bath. Kids peeing in the shower isn’t the end of the world, there more water tumbling down to wash it off.
    2. What’s the difference if it’s 8-12m from the bathroom for the rest of the time? It’s likely closer to other rooms.
    3. If YOU don’t like the layout of a house either rent/buy something else or get the layout renovated to the way you like.
  • +3

    Having the toilet separate from the bathroom is more hygienic. Putting them in the same room is done to save space.

    I don't see this as a negative at all.

  • +1

    They could ride an electric scooter to the toilet

  • Is OP Ineed2pee in disguise?

  • +1

    9 people in our hosehold (7 children, 2 adults).. 3 of which are toddlers that are currently toilet-training, one is a 1yo who doesn't use the toilet and the rest are older kids / 2 adults who obviously would use it. We have only one bathroom and 1 toilet between us and make it work just fine.
    Our experience isn't so much the kids not making the journey in time but rather them conciously deciding that the floor is a suitable place to do their business and then complain about it to mum and dad, this has been 'typical toddler behaviour' for all of our kids so assume it to be a normal part of development. Start investing in paper towels and a decent spray mop (with many replacement pads) to manage this!

    I think if we can make it work with 1 bathroom, surely just about anyone could with 1-3 children. So if the price is right and you like everything else, don't let this one thing slow you down, it's not as big a problem as most think.

  • What are you asking…whether your kids of unspecified age can make it 8-12m to the toilet?

    I have no idea, they are your kids.

    Are kids always normally less than 8-12m from a toilet at all times?

  • My house has a bathroom with no toilet. It's so 'old', the toilet is off the laundry.

    Trust me, people (including kids) learn to live with it and walk the distance, even in the middle of the night.

  • Wow an inside dunny! Score :)

  • Separate WC ftw

  • Have you thought of adding a toilet near the bathroom, or in the hallway?
    https://i.redd.it/a69s5r3dmdg81.png

    • That’s disgusting - leaving the roll like that when there is a holder. What is with some people

      • My cleaner keeps leaving it like that. They do a really good job apart from that so I have learnt to accept it.

  • +1

    It's not a problem. Have three toilets in our house all well away (more than 10m) from their rooms. They happily make a mess in the toilet and not down the hallway.

  • +1

    My 2c

    1) kids or not, better to have separate toilet and bathroom.

    2) don't think it's big deal either way where toilet is.
    2a) consider where the kids will spend most their time during day. Visits to toilet after bed time will be minimal. Where do you plan to have them play during the day? Accidents happen when they are too busy playing / focused on what they are doing and run to the toilet at the last moment.

  • When we renovated our bathroom we removed the bath and put in a 2nd toilet. Yes occasionally we miss the bath but having 2 toilets in a house with 4 people is so much easier.

  • +1

    every drain is a toilet if you try hard enough

    • +1

      It’s all pipes

  • You said bigger home so 8-10m is nothing, even for small kids.
    What is concerning "in the main living room", please clarify do you mean, "off the main living room"? If the latter and it's private \ out of the way no issue with the distance between them. Would certainly install a tap\sink in the toilet if not already.
    Great idea to keep them separate.

  • Yes better if main bathroom has a toilet you will just have to factor in how much you like the house, the price of the house, if you renovated can you put a toilet in etc.

    You know your situation its your choice.

  • I’d keep looking if I was you. There’ll be homes out there with the correct layout. That was a poorly thought-through design.

  • Put a porta potty outside their window

  • Buy a WRX

  • +1

    What size is the existing bathroom? Does it have an outside wall? If it is big enough the toilet could be positioned where the flush can exit through the wall - however there would have to be an outside sewer main nearby and the toilet connected to that,
    Another alternative is to somehow convert the shower recess into a toilet. Reposition the shower head over the bath. Those showering would have to stand in the bath.
    Perhaps take the bath out completely and have a shower only. A toilet is installed where the bath was previously.

  • Having toilet separate from the bathroom is the preferred location, I don't understand why it's a deal breaker. How old are these kids that they can't make it down the hall?

  • We have a similar layout and we just renovated the aging family bathroom and included a toilet. Now we have two toilets, which is very handy for a family with two kids below 5. And if the kids need to go to the toilet at the same time there's no drama. It cost around 18k all up earlier this year.

  • All these replies suggesting the main bathroom should include toilet for young kids. I hope either:
    - kids will always flush with toilet seat down
    - you don't mind small bits of poop floating to the toothbrushes

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