Snoring Partner - What Do You Do/What Do They Do to You??

snugglepuff on 26/08/2024 - 05:14
Last edited 26/08/2024 - 12:36 by 1 other user

Was just wondering what people do when their partner starts snoring.

I tend to tap their shoulder but have started moving their pillow so they move their head position otherwise they will start snoring again. I feel mean but I need to sleep too. I am a light sleeper so I try to get to sleep first before my partner in case they start snoring and I also use ear plug to sleep but I can still hear it.

Any other suggestions/ cures for this I assume common problem? I know weight loss can help- which I have encouraged.

Poll Options

  • 58
    Other- specify in chat
  • 47
    Poke
  • 19
    Kick bed/ move around in bed
  • 13
    Suffer in silence
  • 4
    Move pillow
  • 3
    Shoulder tap
  • 2
    Make noise/talk
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  • Hommusburger on 26/08/2024 - 20:44
    -1

    Get your partner to have a sleep study done as they most likely have sleep apnoea. It can either be an obstruction in the nasal passageway or could be an issue with tongue/soft palate or throat. If issue is with the the throat a mandibular advancement splint is 60% effective and much better than a cpap

    • snugglepuff on 27/08/2024 - 12:41

      Thanks for the suggestion!

  • Mattmbgo on 26/08/2024 - 21:26

    I snore, im sleeping on side /2 pillows and sports tape over mouth to breath thru nose

    • johnno07 on 26/08/2024 - 22:56
      +3

      2 pillows and sports tape over mouth

      I suppose suffocation is a sure-fire way to make sure your partner stops snoring.

      • Mattmbgo on 27/08/2024 - 03:29

        Been like this about 6 months, no suffocation yet!!

  • miwahni on 26/08/2024 - 21:29

    A friend once told me that when her husband snores, she whispers "Shh, we're going past the hospital" and he stops snoring. Weird….

  • Wasabi Ninja on 26/08/2024 - 21:34
    +1

    CPAP

  • klonky on 26/08/2024 - 22:04
    +1

    I had a tonsillectomy and adenoidectomy which fixed my snoring.

  • frostman on 26/08/2024 - 22:49

    I've been through the crap for years, at times it was debilitating to be fully awake in the early hours of the night.

    Here's something that will definitely help.

    1.) Ask them to sleep on an elevated pillow (or double pillow), its not very comfortable for them, but the snoring is comfortable to you.
    2.) Get them to lose weight, 90% of the snoring is due to be overweight, when the weight drops, the snoring slightly subsides.
    3.) If the snoring is linked to sleep apnoea (pauses through snoring/gasping for air) get them go to a clinic where there is a cost to have a SA machine

  • cbastien on 26/08/2024 - 22:55

    Nose clip worked very well for me
    https://www.amazon.com.au/Snoring-Vents-Stopper-Solution-Sno…

  • SimpleSimom on 26/08/2024 - 23:39

    Try putting a tennis ball on their back to stop them sleeping on their back.

  • UFO on 27/08/2024 - 00:45
    +5

    If its particularly loud, they may have sleep apnoea.

    I was a very loud snorer and a massive frustration to my Mrs. Got tested and sure enough wasn't sleeping properly and starving my brain of oxygen every night.
    With the CPAP machine I not only get a much more restful night's sleep (which means better moods when awake!), but there is ZERO snoring.
    Only the faint whir of the CPAP.

    A CPAP will definitely take away the snoring. It does take some getting used to, but a considerate partner will at least try things. Excessive snoring, and the associated sleep deprivation for the other person, can really cause issues in a relationship.

    Get your partner tested for sleep disorders.

  • sheebies on 27/08/2024 - 00:54

    Used to get angry, used to have arguments…. Now we just sleep in separate bedrooms.
    We both get sleep, no one gets angry, we’re happy.

    • Logical on 28/08/2024 - 18:21

      DB now?

  • mikljon on 27/08/2024 - 02:31

    Couch/Sofa bed

  • tensionday on 27/08/2024 - 07:37

    A lady I used to work with used to swear by these.
    https://snoremd.com.au/
    The 30 day return cash back policy is meant to be quite good if it doesn't work for you.

    • snugglepuff on 27/08/2024 - 12:41

      Thanks for the suggestion!

      • whyisave on 29/08/2024 - 07:23

        Nasal strips are also quite OK.
        I've seen people snore quite less, because of them.

  • milobob on 27/08/2024 - 07:54
    +3

    Get them to see the GP to get checked for sleep apnoea. It's a serious problem, super under diagnosed.

  • YodaBaby on 27/08/2024 - 07:54

    Ear plugs work but careful that you might get ear ache or infections. The best is to sleep in separate rooms and save the marriage.

  • dealsucker on 27/08/2024 - 07:55

    Put some ambient noise on (like rain sounds or some white noise), trust me it helps! ;)

    • THICKnSLOW on 27/08/2024 - 09:52

      rainforest noise works best - to compliment the chainsaw and bulldozer noises lol

    • snugglepuff on 27/08/2024 - 12:41

      Thanks for the suggestion!

  • gentlekoala5906 on 27/08/2024 - 07:59
    +2

    Get them to do a sleep test to confirm it's not sleep apnea

  • Hangryuman on 27/08/2024 - 10:22

    my woman snores like a cat purring - I find it quite relaxing to listen to.

  • MrThing on 27/08/2024 - 11:21
    -1

    headbutt

  • tasty-falafel on 27/08/2024 - 11:36
    +1

    Getting a CPAP machine was a miracle for me. I used to be a very heavy snorer and now I don't snore at all while using it. It would be worth getting tested, the test is free at many chemists, and if your partner actually suffers from sleep apnoea it could significantly improve their sleep and their health. It's very damaging to the body to stop breathing for long periods of time.

  • shreav on 27/08/2024 - 12:07
    +1

    CPAP machines changed my life. The first night I tried it, I felt like I slept for the first time in 7-8 years. I didn't even realise how tired I had actually been.

    I strongly encourage you to speak to a doctor about it.

  • hongas on 27/08/2024 - 13:19
    +2

    +1 for the CPAP is the answer. First night after use, Whole world view changed - I can only describe as beginning of Disney movie where you wake up from sleep in the green forest with birds chirping, gentle sun shine through green leaves.

    best $$ money I ever spent. I will do it again and again.

  • valuer on 27/08/2024 - 13:28
    +1

    So the basic problem here is - being a light sleeper!

    If it is a man who is snoring, and whether or not men snore more it certainly is woman who complain about it more, then try more sex. It isn't yet proven to be a definite cure but (on behalf of all men) please help in the research.

  • ingster on 27/08/2024 - 14:27

    I snore sometimes when I am sleeping on my back, my wife will poke me and ask me to rollover if I am bothering her. I've also started using mouth tape which has helped a fair bit.

  • alexdagr8 on 27/08/2024 - 15:10

    Multiple things:
    1. Organise tonsil removal (if tonsils)
    2. Encourage high intensity exercise and weight loss (weight can be causal, exercise and high intensity exercise can help build muscles in the diaphragm for stronger breathing at rest.
    3. Make sure (if woman) she isn’t wearing a bra to bed (compression on the chest can contribute)
    4. Sleeping on back/ face can lead to higher snoring, encourage sleeping on the side/ push over
    5. If weight related ozempic might also assist, however try number 2. First.
    6. Confirm it’s not a blockage of the nose - ie reduce dust mites in the room/ change linen/ wash pillows and deep vacuum mattress. (A lot of people are mildly allergic to dust mites)
    breathing through the mouth is often the cause of snoring as well.
    7. Operation to open up airways in nose (if the cause)
    8. CPAP machine (which should probably be a last resort)

    Some of the ideas above might cover some resolutions to a person’s issue but not all. As snoring and the underlying root cause is often multifaceted. Recommend booking a sleep study with a GP to find out.

    • snugglepuff on 29/08/2024 - 18:49

      Thanks for the multiprong approach!

  • DannyC on 27/08/2024 - 19:11
    +1

    Many have suggested CPAP machines but it can be expensive.

    My suggestion is to try out Snore MD. it is a class 1 medical device that U adjust to fit your mouth. Kind of like a mouth guard that brings your jaw forward slightly. It gets some getting used to after a few days but it'll really reduce snoring effects, at least for my own experience. I use a snore monitoring app in combination with this to monitor my progress.

    It is about $170 with a money back 30 day guarantee if U don't see results.

    I would give this a try n see if it works for you or your partner before considering expensive options like surgery or CPAP machines.

  • Miss B on 27/08/2024 - 19:44

    Maybe try what the 11yo I'm caring for did with her brother.. Told him to stop doing it, whined for a while and then turned their sleep music up so that it didn't bother her any more.

  • serpserpserp on 27/08/2024 - 20:20

    Blunt trauma to the head with a big rock usually helps.

  • laura85 on 27/08/2024 - 20:20

    If you have to sleep in the same bed, sleep head to toe so the snoring isnt happening right near your head.

    • Daabido on 27/08/2024 - 21:05
      +3

      Easier to kick in the head that way too.

    • Miss B on 28/08/2024 - 07:31

      Next post from OP will be about their partner's smelly feet.

  • Britney on 27/08/2024 - 21:37

    Okay this might sound weird but we use medicinal tape to tape my partners mouth at night. This forces him to breathe through his nose and it has been life changing (for us). He swears he feels more rested and energised in the mornings and so do I.

  • cheesecactus on 28/08/2024 - 00:12

    loop sleep earbuds

  • heroherozangief on 28/08/2024 - 00:41

    CPAP

  • Ciderfizz44 on 28/08/2024 - 04:04

    Pinch their nose

  • Topdog on 28/08/2024 - 05:18

    I go sleep on the couch

  • hopper on 28/08/2024 - 06:25

    looks like ur newly married. soon either of you will be sleeping on couch.

    but the actual solutions

    1)playing some background sound like ocean or rain. my google home mini does it as routine. it might help you to distract.

  • RiseAndRuin on 28/08/2024 - 11:16
    +1

    Partner is defective, get a refund from Amazon.

  • dsgfh on 28/08/2024 - 11:50

    Sleep study is a good idea, but note that measuring can change the result, particularly given that with all the wires hooked up they're unlikely to sleep as well as usual.

    I had a custom guard fitted, which worked for a while, but the hard plastic chipped one of my back teeth (I also grind my teeth). My insurance wouldn't cover it as the sleep study didn't show aponea. Check with your insurance before going down this path.

    Switched to a SnoreMD device which was < 1/10th the price of the custom guard, and more effective to boot. Best $169 I've spent.

  • BoomTetrisForJeff on 28/08/2024 - 12:54

    My partner can't fall asleep unless I'm snoring suprisingly infact I'll sometimes fake snore so she can sleep

    • witheredcouch on 28/08/2024 - 13:00
      +1

      That's me, find it far harder to get to sleep when my partner isn't snoring, as i'm always the last to fall asleep.

  • witheredcouch on 28/08/2024 - 12:59

    It's apparently so uncommon it's not even an option, but I find the sound of my partner (and my dog) snoring to be extremely peaceful and it helps me sleep. The closest option is "suffer in silence", but it's not suffering as it isn't a bother whatsoever.

    • tikei on 28/08/2024 - 13:15

      I love my dog and cat snoring, it's cute and gentle and soothing. But human snoring tends to be a lot louder, and abrasive

  • Hangryuman on 28/08/2024 - 13:03

    not sure about my snoring but I tend to dribble on the pillow which is murky so I use a cheap bandaid along/across my lips for sleep to prevent that - I like to think it stops me snoring and helps me breathe through the nose better with mouth closed.

    https://www.woolworths.com.au/shop/productdetails/31435/band…

    • liongalahad on 28/08/2024 - 19:58

      lol wat

    • snugglepuff on 29/08/2024 - 18:51

      Wow solves both drooling and snoring!

  • 50cent on 28/08/2024 - 14:08

    I used to snore all night, then i lost 40lbs and now have stopped completely

  • jaimex2 on 28/08/2024 - 14:32

    If moving them fails I play rain sounds at full blast on both phones. Snoring is only really an issue when sick.

  • qwijibo on 28/08/2024 - 14:37

    Hold the pillow tightly against their face for about 5 minutes. The snoring should stop.

  • kolorijo on 28/08/2024 - 14:57

    Earplugs

  • Mr Random on 28/08/2024 - 16:36

    Is there a way to select all voting options…
    I also bought these, and they work well.

  • Logical on 28/08/2024 - 18:22

    Sticky tape over their mouth. Always works.

  • GuitarXXX on 28/08/2024 - 18:23

    see a doctor

  • liongalahad on 28/08/2024 - 19:57

    white noise and earplugs every bloody night

  • Oppressa on 28/08/2024 - 22:59

    Try something like this which positions the jaw slightly forward and stops the snoring sound:
    https://shop.resmed.com.au/products/snore-rx

  • Eeples on 29/08/2024 - 08:47

    Plenty of partners sleep in separate rooms in order to get a good night sleep and to continue having their own space and to some extent their own identity.

    Getting together in the mornings can feel special, who visits who can be anticipatory, much fun.

    Getting together at night can be good too but be careful of leaving too quickly, or at all.

  • UltimateAI on 29/08/2024 - 15:14

    CPAP machine, like an airsense 10 from ResMed.
    Absolutely fixes snoring.

  • tchan28 on 29/08/2024 - 17:06

    If it's loud enough to disturb you, make them get a sleep study (they're free - at least they were free when I did them a decade ago). You can get a referral through your GP.

    • snugglepuff on 29/08/2024 - 18:52

      Thanks! Sounds like a no brainer!

  • Ooops on 29/08/2024 - 17:10

    I don't snore, I dream that I'm a motorcycle!

  • Brianqpr on 29/08/2024 - 18:18

    Me and my wife both snore on occasion.

    I'm usually an ok sleeper and can often ignore when she does it and drop off again. If I can't then a gentle nudge is usually enough.

    When its me though I've felt quite forceful kicks as I've woken up!

  • fredk1000 on 29/08/2024 - 20:54

    Separate rooms and shut the door.

  • FareEvader on 29/08/2024 - 21:28

    Find the root cause and fix the problem

  • itsHughesy on 02/09/2024 - 11:42

    My ex wife used to snore horrendously, to the point where I spent a decade sleeping with ear plugs in and even that wasn't enough. She'd never do anything about it, while not a defining reason, it was part of my reasoning to leave her and vow to never, ever, have a partner that snored like that again.

  • chingy213 on 03/09/2024 - 17:23

    as a avid snorer, make sure you fall asleep before your husband

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