Holding Carpark Space with Your Body

So, went to Floriade Canberra today and they got a public carpark attach to it. We went around and were about to leave as there were no free carpark when we saw this car leaving. Drove up and then this lady came and just stand in the middle of the free space when we were already blinking.

Asked her to move aside and her next line was she is reserving the space for her family car!! Like wtf??? Is that really something in Australia where you reserve a carpark by standing in it?!! Especially in a public space?!! Like every single car were doing the right thing by going around and looking for a space and this lady who by the way speak really well English just walk up to the car space and stand there saying she is reserving it! Told her there are not such thing in Australia and she still didn't move. We gave up and just thought some people does not know the rule of the country they are living in.

Later on, i was enjoying the flowers display with my family and she came to harass me and threatened my family inside Floriade as she didn't appreciate I told her that no one do that in Australia! It might be a thing in India or Asia but not here (as I'm Asian myself and saw it there)! So, now I'm just wondering if this is a new rule and if I should do the same next time as it's seems that covid have make people totally out of mind?!!

Comments

    • +152

      She thought she was still in India and can threatened people … and yes, if she didn't harass me afterwards i would have let it go.. i actually filled a police report as she followed me inside floriade and didn't leave me alone.

        • +85

          Considering their caste system it probably is okay to some people.

        • +81

          Cultural differences. It's not racist to call out what it is.

            • +3

              @p1 ama: Her being indian is relevant as that is the reason she is behaving as is.

              Difference between racism and evolved pattern recognition.

              • +19

                @Ahbal: That's bollocks. I've had this happen to me at fountain gate shopping centre.

                The person holding the car park was a fat bogan and his teen daughter no less. I think it's just down to the individual, their values and what they think is ok to do rather than ethnicity or nationality.

                • +5

                  @CocaKoala: So, you're saying you disagree with me, yet provide an example supporting my argument?

                  In your case, its a "fat bogan". In OP's case its an "Indian woman".

                  Both descriptors underline the behaviour.

                  If you thought I / others meant its exclusive to one race…then you need comprehension lessons.

                  • +7

                    @Ahbal: This is the part I disagree with:

                    "Her being indian is relevant as that is the reason she is behaving as is."

                    A person could be Indian and not behave that way, and not be Indian and behave that way.

                    Plenty of bogans and Indians live here who aren't like this. So it's got nothing to do with them being indian or bogan.

                • +11

                  @CocaKoala: People forget that you can get bogan indians just the same as you can get bogan chinese.

                  Not all indian/chinese people are good natured maths elitists who are both neurosurgeons and cardiologist by the time they are 10.

                  just saying, it literally is up to the person and the level of 'education' they have received on how to behave in life.

      • +3

        This actually happened to me twice during boxing day. One guy was asian and the other was not. It really pissed me off too; but I would not stereotype as those seemed like one off incidents. I have never experienced that before anywhere else in the world.

      • -4

        Thats indian for you.. Their caste systems is omg…

        • -2

          @spedohero pakkies everyday.

      • +1

        This is some bullshit, I would got my fam to exit the car and hang around the Floriade entrance while I stay there until she leaves or whatever, she can stand as long as she wants, I'd be pretty comfy sitting in my car.

      • btw it's actually a thing in india or asia, you literally do what you can to find a car parking spot, but it is frowned upon. goes along standing next to someone who is eating so that you can get that spot when they finish.

        it is generally not accepted here as we don't need to go to such desparate measures.

        you do need to show a bit of empathy with these things to try and understand why people do some things, but that person was strictly out of line especially approaching you afterwards and needs to receive a fine of whatnot for that follow up behaviour.

        dare i pick at it: asians/indians normally being all timid and shit, i doubt she would have had a go at you if you were anglo saxxon.

        • -4

          ahhh, what garbage. we do NOT need to show empathy. it goes like this snowflake… your living here, you conform. end of discussion.

    • +1

      100%

  • +31

    should do the same next time

    The TLTR.

    I reckon No. Don’t degrade yourself to their level.

  • +36

    stand in the middle of the free space

    You know where she parked, sometimes that is not a good idea to do that kinda thing. Some people like to “revenge”… just saying.

    • +15

      They got a bright red car.. i believe in karma and know that next time they won't be that lucky to have someone like me who just point it out… another aussie guy told us if it was him he would have run over her and just say oopsie..

  • India is part of Asia. Just saying.

    • +2

      I know but obviously she said i was racist for saying that when i m also from asia…and half indian ..

      • +40

        You can be racist regardless of where you come from.

        • +28

          You can also be racist for saying things that aren't racist.

        • true. and you can also be stupid and deserving of a slap regardless of where you come from

    • -1

      So is Australia

      • +1

        I think you might need to brush up on your primary school geography education on continents. I'm not aware of any continent definition that has Australia part of Asia.

    • +6

      If she didn't speak really well english, i would have brush it off and thought.. ok.. newly arrived.. doesn't know the rule..

      • +27

        She knew exactly what she was doing and that it was wrong. It's probably the lowest dog move you can do in a parking lot, yet if you had run her over, somehow it would have been your fault. I'm sure this wasn't her first rodeo either.

        • +21

          Wouldn't be worth to run her over as my first intention was to enjoy the flower show ..and at the end of the day it's a carspace and i can still drive around ( which i did) to get one..but she made it worse by running toward me inside the show and harassing my kids and me for pointing out what she did is not something tolerate in Australia.. (she thought i would be scare of guys with turbans)… She managed to ruined my day.. if she had left it there like i did i would have brush it off as just a stupid encounter of the day…and have a laugh about it with friends…

          • +5

            @Fier2: If there ever was a next time, video record it. People would usually not continue their inappropriate behaviour. If they do, there is always a “public shaming” route.

        • I think stealing a car spot would be worse..

  • +63

    i think that's ducked, I'd have entered the space as much as possible, waited for her family to come and go, parked, then moved the car after they'd left (to avoid them damaging the vehicle)
    We need to stand up to this garbage

    • +11

      Agree that we need to stand up with this kind of behaviour!

      • +5

        I think if you/your partner got out, pulled out a phone, started recording AND narrating the events… she may have looked like a bellend and left.

        Even if it fails, it would make her think twice next time, or stop doing it moving on. And for those sociopaths who won't stop, it would show the world her in her native element, and that will help people that know her to remove themselves from her influence.

  • +28

    I've only had this happen to me a couple of times, but the response is usually along the lines of, "you can move, or I'll make you move".

  • +5

    has happened to me before twice, once an asian man and another time an indian women

    dunno if this is a thing they do on the reg or if its an accepted practice in india or other parts of asia?

    • +1

      In the past it was a thing but now people have more manners.. usually you will see old people doing that not people in their 30's…

      • +21

        Did you just say Asian and Middle Eastern people are not normal?

      • +1

        If something is a norm in some countries more than others, then ofcourse it has to do with race. Also what are 'normal people', since Asians and Middle eastern, don't seem to be?

        • -5

          Hi cookie2, it was a joke.

          • +16

            @The Value: That's no joke, it's actually the most racist and offensive comment on this thread. Funny how virtue signallers have their own exceptions for rules.

        • Nationality =/= race

      • Whats a normal people?

        • What are*

          • @The Value: soz, missed the /s

            I was poking fun at you, but it flew over your head and hit the person behind you.

      • @Juiciness Normal people?

      • +1

        I get the joke. Lol. Coz I'm not sensitive

      • I’ve seen an untold amount of comments on the internet and OzBargain and this comment is really up there as one of the most deplorable ones. Woah buddy 🤯

        • Daddy chill

  • +17

    Like you say it’s not a thing in Australia. No idea about elsewhere but I’d prefer to keep social norms re parking that we have. She’s lucky she got someone as tolerant as you.

  • This is not a new thing according to Ozb but fortunately I haven't experienced yet. Then again my not so Indian/Asian gf wanted to do that once and I said no 🤣

    Look like something people in desperate situation would do.

      • +9

        Stop trying to find the hate then.

  • +20

    I’d just half park in the space and wait her out

    • +4

      Just doesnt worth it. You might get that car space and be back to a scratched up car later. I would just leave and find another spot.

      • +1

        And then go back and let their tyres down ;)

  • +3

    https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSR9TvpUX/

    This you?

    Mod 25/9: Republished link (system automatically unpublished due to same format as referral links)

  • +4

    Damn can’t share TikTok video, same location and everything, reckon it’s the OP.

    • +1

      As i said story could have end there and it would have been a private story to share with friends.. but she choose to harass me and come to me inside there to tell me she was in her right to hold the space with her body when i asked her to leave me alone as i was enjoying the flowers.. she did not want it and start to threatened me which end up me recording her again as she did not want to go her way.. a story is true only if you got evidence… if you gonna behave like that again and again and not say one apology.. then you will be called out..

    • pm

    • +2

      Oooo pm the link 😂

    • +2

      Please please please pm

    • +5

      Found it, crazy Indian lady following her.

      Type canberra florian parking in tiktok and more or less first link.

    • +6

      Saw the tik tok, and while it seems like everyone is the ahole here… OP recorded them and said "it's ok we'll make you famous for holding car park". Then OP gets upset when they confront them inside… it seems like everyone did something here that resulted in consequences… imagine that

      • -1

        I watched the tik tok and my take away is that only the OP is the ahole. Now they turn to the Internet trying so to make the narrative all about the parking. I would say we are in a good place if our biggest problems are finding a parking spot. But turns out we are in a real bad place given this is how people treat each other.

  • +7

    Reminds me of this video someone posted previously.

    https://youtu.be/tQ3JnxkZxJg

    • +2

      Lol. Knew what video it was before I even clicked. Priceless.

    • +15

      Well, i was already moving over it. BUT she decided to come to me inside the show , harassing me and threatening me while i was just taking picture of the flowers.. if she had left me alone and walk her way i wouldn t have bring it back as i was there for the show and the carpark thing was a funny story to share with friends at the beginning.. she decided that ruining my day was her go… Sorry but who in their mind see a mum taking picture of their young child and minding her business, decide to walk there and saying obscenities?! Yes, i call out people who will do something not right but i move on and went to park somewhere else.. as i do the right thing. I drive around until a space is free. I don't run and stand there knowingly a car is waiting to go in that bay!

    • +46

      you let people walk all over you, they start thinking they can do it all the time, and they can, because people like you tell everyone to just sit back and take it.

      "be the bigger person" is the dumbest shit i've ever heard, be the bigger person by letting everyone else treat you like shit? it's just some nonsense to make people who can't stand up for themselves feel better about being weak.

      • +5

        Nailed it.

        • +6

          Easy to talk shit behind a keyboard hey? I bet you'll fold like a house of cards ;)'

          Again, this is just BS you can spew behind a keyboard not a philosophy you can take into the real world. I grew up in a rough area, I know people who have been stabbed for thinking they're tough. You learn how to be smart when you're in the real world.

          You sound like you're compensating, you should go join the army reserves, you might learn a few things about what it means to be tough.

          the amount of armchair psychology and absolute BS in your comment - you should go back to reddit

      • +4

        If you feel you need to 'stand up for yourself' over every little thing, you're inviting a lot of extra stress in your life.

        There's a lot to be said for letting things go. I'd probably drive on. What do I have to gain by wasting time arguing with an idiot in a car park and then, even if I'm successful, running the risk of coming back to find my car keyed?

        Sure I'm in the right, but what did I really gain?

      • And later they come and key your car. Better avoid these situations. Not worth it

      • What would you have done in the situation?

    • p1ama, stop doing this practice. it is extremely frowned upon here and you will get your car keyed soon enough.

    • P1 ama. Weakness doesn’t make you better. Not does virtue signalling. If you actually walk away from this shtt pls don’t reproduce

  • +17

    It’s not a thing here.

    Personally (and time permitting) i would have just blocked the space either by pulling half in or across it and jumped on Netflix if they stood there purely out of principle.

    It’s stupid, dangerous and selfish.
    When people get away with that rubbish behaviour it only encourages them to keep doing it.

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