Is it ok to do nothing some days?

[Deactivated] on 20/01/2020 - 15:24
Last edited 20/01/2020 - 15:29 by 1 other user

I just worked 5 days 12 hours a day due to work demands..i finally got a day off the other day and got out of bed at about 11am with big plans.

But instead laid on my bed watched a movie on my laptop with a hot chocolate.. then went on social media then read oz bargain etc..was around 5pm when i looked at the clock again…

When i told a friend she said what a waste of a day !!!!!

She keeps movung thru out her days off work…gym. shopping.cafe .etc..in fact she was horrified when i said i got outta bed at 11am…she sets her alarm at same time as her work day on her days off. 5am she is up out of bed ready to enjoy her days off

She even has a app on her phone that she inputs every thing she does thru out the day.

So…..is it ok sometimes to do nothing sometimes ?

I feel guilty after being berated by her…wasted day?

Do u have days off work where u do nothing productive ?. Just watch movies…social media gaming…etc

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  • Porker on 20/01/2020 - 15:27
    +3

    We all value our time differently. I'm sure your friend would need some time to recover, as I'm sure you'd have days where you feel very productive.

  • pyramid on 20/01/2020 - 15:28
    +3

    Your life , you pay your bills, you enjoy….if she is paying your bill then different story…

  • AbsX on 20/01/2020 - 15:29
    +17

    Everybody needs time off to recharge their batteries.

    Its perfectly ok to have a day to do nothing.

  • k-rokfm on 20/01/2020 - 15:30
    +1

    Yeah more than happy to do a day like that every now and then. Those will be the days I miss if/when I have kids

  • Seasoned Salt on 20/01/2020 - 15:33
    +11

    Why care about what other people think?
    Do what you feel like doing.

    • Hybroid on 20/01/2020 - 15:34
      +17

      Their post history clearly shows a pattern of needing audience validation.

  • MS Paint on 20/01/2020 - 15:35
    +2

    Your friend sounds weird. Do what you bloody well like.

  • HighAndDry on 20/01/2020 - 15:43
    +5

    Not ok. PM me and I'll provide you with a minute-by-minute itinerary that I'm going to need you to follow on your days off, on your own time and using your own money…

  • kolorijo on 20/01/2020 - 15:48
    +1

    That's my favorite day, a do nothing day

  • Donaldhump on 20/01/2020 - 15:51
    +1

    of course, its refreshing ur brain, letting u reboot.

  • Taro Milk Tea on 20/01/2020 - 15:52
    +2

    what a life….i actually admire your activity!

  • boomramada on 20/01/2020 - 15:54
    +1

    It is important to do nothing, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjnLLw5BTmc

    • Blue Cat on 20/01/2020 - 16:24
      +2

      God I love my nothing box.

  • abb on 20/01/2020 - 15:57
    +1

    5am she is up out of bed

    vs

    enjoy her days off

    Choose one or the other, I say!

  • capslock on 20/01/2020 - 16:25
    +4

    Some people spend thousands to fly to a far away beach resort so they can do nothing. You got to do it for free.

  • crentist on 20/01/2020 - 16:30
    +3

    Wow everyone sucks in this story.
    Your friend can be active and organised if she wants, but shouldn't judge others for spending their free time differently.
    And you shouldn't be so hopelessly sensitive to ask an audience if you're allowed to just relax sometimes.

    Anyway your friend wakes up at 5am which means she's clearly a morning person and probably in bed by 9. But you could still be out doing stuff much later, whether it's watching a movie or going out with friends, or even just doing your own shopping at at night.
    Tell her she's missing out on prime nighttime hours and could still be out having fun well past midnight, with everyone else who doesn't jump out of bed at the crack of dawn to catalog every time they visit some boring cafe or buy a carrot.

    • [Deactivated] on 20/01/2020 - 16:38
      +3

      Lol..funny how u say catolog…she has OCD and takes pics of her cafe coffee/ neals etc on her phone and "files" them in her phone albums

      • crentist on 20/01/2020 - 16:39
        +7

        takes pics of her cafe coffee/ meals etc on her phone and "files" them in her phone albums

        Ugh, I wouldn't be taking life advice from this person.

        • HighAndDry on 20/01/2020 - 17:20
          +4

          But they'd be great for cafe and restaurant recommendations!

  • fossilfuel on 20/01/2020 - 16:34

    So…..is it ok sometimes to do nothing sometimes ?

    Sure if you're this man

  • Seraphin7 on 20/01/2020 - 16:36
    +3

    One person's "waste of a day" is another person's FOMO.

    I'm not advocating becoming a total couch potato hermit, but if you've had a particularly strenuous period at work, or for any number of other physically or mentally taxing scenarios, the odd day of "doing nothing" is probably going to have beneficial outcomes vs. spending your day off running around gyms, shopping centres, cafes, etc., etc.

    Perhaps if you rephrase "doing nothing" to a "day of balancing, meditation, and personal reflection and introspection" your friend wouldn't be so quick to judge.

  • apsilon on 20/01/2020 - 16:40
    +1

    I'd say not only OK but essential. Of course it should only be occasional otherwise it probably indicates other issues.

  • [Deactivated] on 20/01/2020 - 16:41
    +1

    It's your life. Do what you want.

    Having said that, if you're not taking the initiative to do something with your time, don't be surprised when things that require maintenance start failing.

    I don't know about you but I don't make enough money to lay around all day when I'm not at work.

    • [Deactivated] on 21/01/2020 - 08:32

      You have a point actually because i felt guilty the other day lazing around when the housework needing doing , not urgently but the carpet needed vacuuming etc

  • neo on 20/01/2020 - 16:52
    +1

    Everyone is different. Some have ants in their pants and can't relax. Others like to unwind and just do nothing. Whatever floats your boat, who cares what the next person does.

  • pantsparty on 20/01/2020 - 17:05
    +2

    Of course this is ok. In fact it’s more than ok, it’s a necessity. After a week of work I most definitely need some down time where I sit on my butt and play on my iPad doing absolutely nothing productive with Netflix playing in the background.

    Don’t be ashamed of your body needing time to recover and reenergise. Some people recharge their fuel tanks by being social and spending time with people (extroverts generally). Others recharge their tanks by having quiet home time (introverts). Neither is good or bad - we are all unique individuals with different needs. If you don’t work and spend months doing nothing then let’s talk. Otherwise enjoy your downtime - we don’t get to enjoy peace and quiet very often.

  • Donaldhump on 20/01/2020 - 17:06

    i work with plenty of these people.

  • Diji1 on 20/01/2020 - 17:28
    +4

    Most Australians have an obsession with being busy because their lives are empty, pointless and morally bankrupt.

    They avoid all analysis or thought about this by always appearing busy in order to buy the possessions that ensure that they have friends. The possessions never make them happy because they just allow them to hang around with similarly morally bankrupt people rather than provide anything valuable to them.

  • EightImmortals on 20/01/2020 - 17:45
    +1

    Today I don't feel like doing anything
    I just wanna lay in my bed
    Don't feel like picking up my phone, so leave a message at the tone
    'Cause today I swear I'm not doing anything

    I'm gonna kick my feet up, then stare at the fan
    Turn the TV on, throw my hand in my pants
    Nobody's gon' tell me I can't, no

    I'll be lounging on the couch, just chilling in my Snuggie
    Click to MTV, so they can teach me how to dougie
    'Cause in my castle I'm the freaking man

    Oh yes, I said it, I said it, I said it 'cause I can

    Today I don't feel like doing anything
    I just wanna lay in my bed
    Don't feel like picking up my phone, so leave a message at the tone
    'Cause today I swear I'm not doing anything

  • sraymond on 20/01/2020 - 17:49
    +3

    Just because your friend is so uncomfortable with herself she has to always be busy doesn’t mean you need to allow her to berate you or influence your life choices in any way. Pity your day of self care was tarnished by her. Don’t tell her next time.

  • pegaxs on 20/01/2020 - 17:51
    +3

    Tell your friend to pull her head in. You did something that you wanted to do for the day. It wasnt wasted if you did something you wanted to do. And if that something was to just relax and enjoy your time off, that's your choice.

  • jjjaar on 20/01/2020 - 20:31
    +4

    Time enjoyed is not time wasted.

  • TheBilly on 20/01/2020 - 20:36

    You can never get your time back again.

  • Cheap Charlie1 on 21/01/2020 - 02:06
    +1

    You just worked 60 hours in 5 days. More than entitled to spend a day doing what YOU want to do.

  • jojo13 on 21/01/2020 - 07:27

    YES

  • SydBoy on 21/01/2020 - 07:32
    +1

    I do this every weekend for last few years…! Prefer to do something else but always found reasons for not doing anything 😅

    • [Deactivated] on 21/01/2020 - 08:29

      Yeah i wonder how many actually do nothing on their weekends after a busy week AND are happy with their choice !

      I guess a lot of us prefer staying home watching movies, or xbox ir whatever than going out all day

      • blawler05 on 21/01/2020 - 10:46
        +1

        Me..

        The best weekends for me are the ones I stay home. Play some computer games, watch some netflix, Paint some models. This is an ideal day for me.

        When you work so hard during the week it is important to have downtime. Not everything in life needs to be go go go. Imo your friend is headed for an early burnout/heartattack if she is always rushing from one point to another. She sounds really wound up and could be indicators of other issues.

        Life is about balancing what we have to do and what we want to do. I want to lay in bed all day watching movies, I have to go to work to support the days I can do that :-D

  • djk on 21/01/2020 - 08:17
    +3

    Everyone is different and have different wants and needs. I was reading your post and thinking what a great way to reward yourself for a string of days working hard. If you don't take care of yourself who else will. Your friend is entitled to their opinion, but it is just that, HER opinion. For you, your choice is what matters! Go for it and enjoy a laid back, relaxing day. Maybe one day she will be able to relax too. Think you have inspired me, going to make a hit chocolate now :)

  • OzHunterNSW on 21/01/2020 - 10:14
    +1

    It is your life… do whatever you want… you deserve a break… take time off to do whatever YOU want.

  • [Deactivated] on 21/01/2020 - 10:44

    I feel guilty after being berated by her

    You don't need us (or your friend) for validation. Do what feels right to you.

  • saltypete on 21/01/2020 - 10:45
    -1

    I thought that people saying stupid things like that to us was the reason we are able to fart noisily at will. Suggest that this is the suitable response.

  • capslock janitor on 21/01/2020 - 11:21

    WHAT DO YOU DO WORKING 12HRS A DAY DAMNNN

    Tell me what app she uses please… I need

  • HeWhoKnows on 21/01/2020 - 14:54
    -1

    Dear OP Do as you wish and leave us alone
    This post is wasting more of your time!

  • ozbjunkie on 21/01/2020 - 18:06
    +1

    Pathological business because of an inability to be still and quiet is as bad as pathological stillness because of an inability to get motivated and find meaning.

    It's one day, not everyday.

    One day a week, you can do whatever you want.

    My problem is I watch movies, game, gym, nap and ubereats every day, and I am beginning to actually dislike it.

    • [Deactivated] on 21/01/2020 - 19:03

      Love your reply, you are right 👍🏻

  • brad1-8tsi on 21/01/2020 - 18:08
    +1

    Some days I like to be busy, others I like to do sweet FA.

    Both are acceptable and good for our mental health

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