Draft Letter To My (Sort Of) Niece - Indicating

OK, so the forums on Ozbargain are as much about social commentary as bargains. Help me solve my dilemma. My partner's niece drove us home from a function on Saturday night. She is 23, and we are on good terms. I was a little aghast at her attitude towards indicating. I've drafted the following letter…..should I send it?


Thanks for driving us home on Saturday night. I noticed something, and I thought I should tell you about it. I know I’m just your sort of/almost uncle, but I have been driving for 45 years without a major accident (I’ve been rear ended twice in stop-start traffic…no damage). You’ve got more than 45 years driving in front of you. If you don’t get it right now, the habits you have will stay with you forever.

My observation? Indicating. It isn’t optional. It’s not just that the law says you must indicate when changing direction, no matter whether other cars are around or not. Indicating every time you change direction - on roads, in car parks, anywhere – is probably the most important good driving habit that you can develop. It can save your life.

You may check your mirrors, see no other cars and change lane, turn a corner or do a U turn without indicating. You may get away with it 200 times. Perhaps 500 times. But one day, the car (or motorbike or bike) you don’t see will be there. Indicating in advance of your movement gives the other car a chance to beep you or to take evasive action.

Indicating in advance means just that. When changing lanes, develop the discipline of letting the indicator blink at least three times before starting to move across. Let it blink once, and it might be just when the driver behind is checking his mirrors. Keep the indicator on as you move across. It should be on for at least seven blinks. Indicate every time you pull out from the kerb, pull into a parking spot on the street or in a car park….every time you change direction.

Not indicating doesn’t save your blinkers from wear and tear. It isn’t physically taxing. You aren’t gaining anything from not doing it. I don’t mean to preach…..I just don’t want you ending up a casualty of your own habits.

Comments

  • Everyone has that “weird” uncle I guess. Go for it, send the letter!

  • +1

    Hats off to your Patience OP. I know what you mean. Even I hate it when someone doesn't indicate.

  • +1

    I'd mention it to your partner and she can bring it up because she probably knows her better than you do.

  • +1

    People who don't indicate should have their licence taken away. It should be a habit. That said, talk to her and merely suggest it.

    • +1

      Yes, do us ALL A FAVOUR by merely suggesting to her that her license be taken away.

      • @THICKnSLOW That's hilarious!! I hadn't meant it that way, but on reflection, your option is far better for everyone!

  • Ask your partner to speak to her directly indicating what you said in the letter?

  • Let it go. If you want to give feedback, do it immediately and in person, and always ask first.

  • No need for a long winded letter. Have a conversation with her, face to face. Be friendly. Open with the fact that you really appreciated the lift and ask if she wouldn't mind a bit of advice about one aspect of her driving that bothers you. Clear it with your partner first.

  • Pro tip for relationships, don't write letters about such things talk to people get to know them.

  • Here’s the thing. No one likes a back seat driver so just don’t be one.

    It’s like telling someone who doesn’t know they stink and no way you address it to them is not going to come out not offensive. Just always drive yourself home

  • 45 years experience of driving. 0 years experience of tact

    • Harsh but fair!! Learning from my betters

  • I love indicating !

  • I have an idea for you, call her on the phone.
    Or next time you see her at a family event tell her face to face.

    Whats wrong with modern Aus males honestly.

  • You should tell her somehow but not like this, indicating is important, dont listen to the critics who probably a car every year or two, i certainly know folks like that.

  • Send her this vdeo link https://youtu.be/_xvuE-ZC0S4

    • That's good! Could add 10 more.

      • I'm sure you could. If your on Facebook and she is a friend just post it on your page. Maybe she will see it. Would be a subtle way of getting your point out. Next time you see her if your still frustrated with the issue you could mention the video you found and that it had some good driving tips that you found interesting that you didn't realize were such an issue. Mind you she would still be wondering why you would show her the video.

  • Tell her in person to indicate.
    It might save her life one day

    It reads alright, I would cut the rhetorical question though.
    Most people especially young people hate reading rhetorical questions

    Tell her of real stories where the driver didn't indicate and got hit by a truck

    People are too soft these days. Scared of saying anything real. People who say you're not doing the right thing care more about their own image than actually tackling an awkward conversation that might save a young person's life

  • +1

    As a driver who spends 10 hours a day on the road my attitude is that people who don't indicate are lazy, selfish and inconsiderate sub humans.

    They're generally a sloppy human being who could not care less about others.

    But I'm just nitpicking and so are you.

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