"Helpful" waitress spoiled our celebration

I would love to know what you all think of this situation that happened in a restaurant recently.

I phoned and made a booking at a casual restaurant for a family group of 16 for Sunday lunch. It was to be a celebration after my 1 year old daughter’s dedication at church.
I told the waitress that one of the group would be bringing a special cake and she told me the per person charge for serving it. All fine.

We arrived at the restaurant and my mother-in-law gave the cake in a box to the waitress and she took it to the kitchen. We then ordered our meals and ate them over the next hour. When it came time for dessert we asked the waitress to bring out the cake. Shortly afterwards, it arrived. We all looked up expecting to see the delicious cake that she had ordered from a cake shop, beautifully decorated. Instead what we saw was about TWENTY PIECES of CUT cake spread on a plate next to the icing placard (with my daughter’s name and a message to her) lying next to them. ARGGHHH. My mother-in-law just looked at it, stunned and eventually asked her “WHY did you cut it up?” The waitress just said “Oh, I thought you wanted it ready to serve to everyone! I thought I was being helpful !”. My mother-in-law said “But nobody had seen it !” The waitress mumbled “I’m sorry”. So that was it. We tried to imagine what it would have looked like when it was whole and then ate it. Tasted very nice, but hardly the special experience we were anticipating and a huge blow at the time to my mother-in-law who had probably paid a lot for it and certainly put a lot of effort into planning the design, hoping everyone would be able to admire it. The manager did agree to waive the cake surcharge (though it took some time for him to offer this).

Later I rang the cake shop and asked if they had a photo of the design but it was custom-made for us so there is no photo available.
Yes, it’s not a huge deal as a cake gets cut up pretty quickly after people see it anyway. My mother-in-law will get over it (I hope).

Perhaps this situation wouldn’t arise often because most cakes brought to a restaurant are probably for birthdays and it would therefore be expected that candles would be blown out before the cake is cut. However if you do take a cake for another occasion (anniversary, graduation etc.) and you are expecting your guests to see it whole, I would suggest mentioning this to the staff or you may find yourself in our situation. 

Comments

  • +170

    We tried to imagine what it would have looked like when it was whole

    Priceless moment.

    • +81

      Lol everyone with eyes looking toward the ceiling, fingers on their chins, perhaps some of the guests even shut their eyes to really focus on what the cake may have looked like

      • +12

        A scene from Seinfeld?

        • +2

          Kramer walks in and announces he got the same cake for $3.99 since the cake shop made an initial one and stuffed up the icing colour from white to off-white

    • haha

    • +10

      We tried to imagine what it would have looked like when it was whole

      Apparently Jewish people have to do that at celebrations after a bris, too.

    • +1

      I can see them trying to do a jigsaw with the pieces

  • +35

    hahahahaha this is gold

        • +2

          Why do I get a strong sense of deja vu? Have you made the same comment made before? *serious question

        • +3

          @Jar Jar Binks:

          "Have you made the same comment … before?"

          I have aired my frustration about this once before, yeppers.

        • +3

          while we are recounting how many times you have repeated yourself on this site, how many times have you used the word 'sommat'?

          "This little script is getting boring" as you put it!

        • +5

          @GnarlyKnuckles:

          1) in the context you use it, the definition of 'sommat' can be determined as mere pseudo intellectual bulldust.

          2) 'Ordinarilly' you would try to educate. Every time you post in fact - for the same reason as above - ie your need to propagate your misguided sense of grandiose intelligence.

          3) for someone so into abbreviations, why are you so damn wordy?

          4)'script' literally means, in its essence, a written character or word. So once again, you are wrong again on that front too.

        • @GnarlyKnuckles: TLDR past the first line…wtf does wft mean?

        • -5

          @pointless comment:
          It verifies DS status. Over-and-out.

        • @GnarlyKnuckles, @pointless comment:

          Gentlemen! Save it for the LARPG.

        • @Scrooge McDuck:
          What's 'LARPG'? Live action role-playing game?

        • +7

          First world problems, complaining about people using the term "first world problems"…

        • +2

          @subywagon: yeh this has been pointed out to the sommat guy before - he just doesnt get the irony.

        • +9

          @GnarlyKnuckles: well GK, now this thread has hit the home page and you are once again collecting negs, i hope you learned sommat!

          When sommat doesnt go your way you should take stock and ask yourself "could i have done sommat different?"

          I think there is sommat in those wise words for all of us.

          Or sommat to that effect

        • maybe because priorities? That said, I acknowledge that the priorities of the OPs family during that situation was how the cake looks when it was whole.

          Lesson : assume everybody is a dumbass and specify what you want to make sure you get it.

  • +22

    oh well, mistake on both ends imo. In the future don't give it to them until you want it cut up.

    • +81

      Agreed - good thing there wasnt a stripper inside the cake!

      • +15

        Thanks I spat out my god damn coffee…

    • +12

      But aren't cakes supposed to stay in the fridge? Tastes better chilled as well. So I don't blame op for handing over the cake early.

      • I'm sure half an hour won't kill the cake.

        If i gave a cake to a server, imo it's implied you want it cut and served…

        • +7

          I'm sure half an hour won't kill the cake.

          But what would a full hour do? From the OP: "We then ordered our meals and ate them over the next hour."

          If i gave a cake to a server, imo it's implied you want it cut and served…

          IMHO, OP was organised and politely informing the restaurant that an outside cake would be brought. It was handed over for safe-keeping while the party ate at the table. The waitress erred by assuming without asking.

        • +3

          To be fair, when I'm out to dine, between sitting, ordering, eating entree, and mains it's probably been 1.5-2 hrs.

          I don't think many dinners at restaurants can be done in 30 mins.

        • +4

          I'm pretty sure the usual approach is to hand it over upon arrival. Otherwise I wouldn't be paying them a service fee, I'd just ask "can I borrow a knife".

        • OP probably should have realised when the server quoted a per person price for serving it; I didn't think a place would charge to bring your own cake back out for you…

        • +1

          @gokhanh: "cakeage" is pretty standard of the restaurant has a dessert menu, just like corkage.

      • Depends what it is. Putting most cakes in the fridge will just make them go stodgy

      • +3

        Never put a buttercream-iced cake in the fridge, pro tip! If you must, leave time for it to come back to room temperature. Cold buttercream is eugh!

        • … another first world prob

        • @Son ofa Zombie: yes but a significant one ;) Gabache icing ftw, especially in Aussie summers :)

  • +4

    lol it's a shame but not much you can do apart from see the funny side.

    Similarish thing happened at my Nanna's 90th. Was at a very expensive function room and lunch. There was a nice display cake (circular) with decorations and a slab cake (minor decorations) which was the same but to feed all those people. The slab cake went out and everyone got a piece or two and the lady running the function said to collect the other cake from their fridge at the end of day as it wasn't needed to be cut up. She then went home.

    After the function we went to collect the display cake and it was gone. One of the workers/chefs had either taken it home or they had cut it up between themselves and eaten it because they thought it wasn't going to be taken. Either way they completely denied this and claimed it had been cut up and put out when it obviously hadn't.

    Wasn't a big deal but more cake would have been nice :]

    Also probably the opposite to your situation, it was expected that the slab cake was going to be plated and served at the tables yet all they did was cut it up and leave it on a table so people (old) lined up to plate up their own piece.

  • +6

    Well, at least you have a story to tell

    • +26

      Probably a more memorable one than viewing the intact cake would've been.

      • +3

        You mean you don't tell your friends at parties about that one time you saw a cake which wasn't cut yet?

        • +12

          I went to Coles today and saw about 30 uncut cakes. It was an amazing experience. Next time I'll bring the kids.

        • @Plankton: great, I got milk everywhere now. Thanks.

  • Seems like they were too eager to reap the returns on their cake charge. The manager seems pretty stingy, it wouldn't take much to make things right, this would've turned out differently in USA.

    • +67

      would've turned out differently in USA.

      Yeh either a class action or Someone brandishing a semi auto weapon

      • +12

        Someone brandishing the weapon and then filing a suit against the gun manufacturer for not including a warning that point a gun at people will attract police attention

      • -4

        Yea Aust and US are on the end of their respective spectra. Aust is "harden the F up", US is "you hurt my fee fees! off to social media I go"! Personally, I prefer the side where the consumer gets something if I couldn't choose the sensible middle ground.

        • +1

          Things is. We are in is Aus and this has been put on social media. Haha

          Now it's a shame it happened. But it was a mistake. They happen. But it'd made the night ever more memorable for you…

      • lol USA has all the answers: tipping, suing and easy access to automatic weapons seems to solve all customer service related matters

  • +47

    You can't have your cake and eat it too.

    • +6

      …and youll never have that recipe again ohhhhh nooooooooooooo

    • +1

      You can't have your cake and eat it too.

      But you can have a photograph of an intact cake and eat it too. :/

    • Let them eat cake.

  • +10

    I smell a rat.

    I reckon the cake got damaged (for example the box it was in was dropped, or sommat squished into the side of it, etc.) at some point after you gave it to them; and the only way to cover up the damage was to cut it up. It's totally obvious that if someone brings in a beautifully created cake, that is what they want brought out, for everyone to see.

    • +21

      Not the 'sommat' guy again

        • +4

          Seriously hombro, i dare you to use less pretentious languange

      • -2

        Do you have an issue with everyone who uses such language, or is this personal?
        I learn lots of slang and acronyms and idioms here - wastes a bit of my time having to look up some that aren't intuitive, but I don't mind. I know some works to use if I ever go to Yorkshire now.

        I find having to read through comments about punctuation and grammar and spelling, and now language, to be way more annoying.

        This is getting like a kids chat room with bullying.

    • Agree, never heard of this before, something fishing. I believe they have a common sense.
      If I was in your position, I would have been really frustrated as it was a special occasion.

    • Maybe the staff ate the cake and replaced it with a cheap stand-in?

  • +5

    I would have done the same. Seemed the logical thing to do with a cake. But I'm not a trained professional in the field, so doesn't excuse her I guess.

    If a "it could have been worse story" helps, I paid 10s of $1000s for my wedding, and I heard that the desserts presentation was incredible. But the wedding party and 1/2 guests never saw it because the hungrier 1/2 of guests (want to guess which side of the family?) wiped it out whilst getting their meal.

    • -3

      I paid 10s of $1000s for my wedding,

      Why did you pay for your own wedding!?

      Surely you've been paying everyday since!

    • -3

      You paid over 10000$ for a wedding cake!??

    • +5

      Yeah, this is a pretty annoying problem for Hospo's. Your chefs make plenty food for the number of guests +20% margin, then the first guests to get to the food take enough to feed a family of three and leave it all on their plate. You end up picking up finished with plates with two baguette sandwiches that would make a $14 lunch at a cafe + other food. The rest of the guests ask where the food is but you have run out of dietaries, popular food and deserts and have to tell them there is no more. They get pissed at you and the chefs/manager and the only appropriate thing to say is "well, if your fellow guests were not such greedy pigs…" but that would make you an ex hospo very fast…

  • -3

    How much of a tip did you leave ?

    • +35

      None, we live in Australia!

        • +49

          If you feel like you need to tip in Australia I feel sorry for you

        • +20

          Surely that's illegal. The minimum wage isn't a RRP.

        • +8

          @twinbag:

          Not in Australia

        • +1

          @twinbag: I never got the tipping thing ( although I do tip from time to time). Is it to reward "good service" ? I get good service from my car mechanic,the staff at 7-eleven, my local fishmonger …etc and I've never tipped them. Should I?

        • +2

          @Hirolol: This is OzBargain I suppose so I'm gonna get negged for suggesting to spend more money if it isn't necessary. Even though I said "it is POLITE to tip" not compulsory…

          l always tip when I eat out somewhere with table service. If I've gotten good service then it is the polite thing to do. It wouldn't be as much as if I were in the US but I'd always at the very least round the bill up to the nearest whole number. Since I am under 25 waiters/waitresses don't expect much or a tip at all but if you are older it is definitely polite.

          .

          Once again it isn't like the US where staff are paid very badly so you don't need to tip your Mechanic or if you stay in a hotel the door man but for me tipping in a restaurant is normal.

          No I don't work in hospitality but I've got several friends who do and the conditions are pretty shit sometimes so getting a bunch of tips is a nice thing.

        • +9

          @knick007:
          If a place has a tip jar, you could leave something there if you like - they could shout themselves a drink at the end of the year or something.
          Apart from that, tipping here is almost meaningless: you said you tip less here than US, so the tip as a portion of income is pretty much insignificant, whereas in US the tip is the primary source of income.

          Eating out in Australia is already overpriced. We aren't looking to worsen that, hence strongly oppose a tipping culture being introduced.

        • -4

          @twinbag: tipping just means you consider the person working for a wage not worth it… disparaging the waiter/ess. Let them (and teach them to) keep their self respect, don't tip them.

        • @abh_gup:

          No, it means you think they are worth more than the pittance they get paid. There isn't a single waiter/ess that feels disparaged by receiving a tip, but carry on believing that if it helps you feel better.

        • @Spackbace:

          Very much so in Australia. If a big company like 7-11 can get away with it, do you really think the owners of the little Thai take away are gonna care about minimum wages?

        • +1

          @SlickMick:

          Wages aside, tips come in handy if I'm a regular at a place with cheap but great food (sometimes you get a return with free sides or a little larger portion of food), looking good in front of a lady friend or simply if i cbf carrying coins (usually Friday / Sat / casino nights, sometimes I'm a bit annoyed at places without the tip jar because i got no way to get rid of coins if its a cash only est. or if it's a small purchase)

        • @abh_gup: what does tipping (in australia if you choose to do it) have to do with a waiter's self respect?

        • +1

          @twinbag: WTF??

          I don't understand why the (profanity) I have been negged -35 for giving my opinion. As I have said several times now

          • I only occasionally tip though I still think it is good manners maybe that is just the way I have been brought up.

          • I usually only tip when I go out with a big group and we've had good service. That is constantly bringing more water, food arrives fast, helpful menu suggestions. Also if the bill isn't a round number and there is a extra $5 If we all put in cash then we would usually just leave it.

          • I also tip if I am at a nice restaurant (like a date with a lady friend - maybe a confusing concept to some of you)

          Finally not being paid minimum wage is very common in Australia, especially international students getting cash and not realising they are being completely screwed over.

        • +1

          @knick007:

          •I also tip if I am at a nice restaurant (like a date with a lady friend - maybe a confusing concept to some of you)

          Nope. Nope. Nope. You're doing it wrong. Tipping doesn't show you're wealthy if you have a gold digger girlfriend. You just wasted a bit more money that was going towards her handbag.

          Finally not being paid minimum wage is very common in Australia, especially international students getting cash and not realising they are being completely screwed over.

          Fine dining and expensive restaurants don't pay minimum wage. That's in "cash only" Asian restaurants where the taxman is being dicked around.

        • @knick007:
          just for the record i didnt neg you…

          I know they will downvote if its a general opinion that nobody likes.
          But i think when someone gets riled up about it then they just do it for fun.
          I think ur initial comment came across as a bit too judgemental.
          When you say 'are you kidding' its like you cant compretend that this guy actually doesnt tip for good service 'like omg totes srs?'

          You arent the only one that got downvoted, the guy below my comment is getting hammered as well but he is also saying people should be tipping.

          In australia the cost of everything is just too damn high to justify tipping. You go to a restaurant and they charge you $7.50 for a glass of coke, are you kidding me? I could go on but you get the idea.

          I would say not to worry about "internet points" but it feels pretty good when your comment gets upvoted.
          I seriously didnt even think about it when i wrote it. There are other times when i think im being funny or witty and i get 1 upvote.
          But i can see where you are coming from, it does suck when you get downvoted for your opinion but its part of it.
          But as far as i can see there is nowhere to check total upvotes or downvotes is there?

          If i were you i just wouldnt worry about it, when you see a notification that says someone has commented then just dont check it.
          If you dont look it wont affect you. Don't let it get to you man, it just means that that many people disagree with you and nothing personal!!!

        • @twinbag:

          You need to report them if they are paying under minimum wage… Not tip to make up for it.

        • +1

          @knick007:
          It's not a question of being polite.
          It is a matter of gratitude.

          Another way to put it - are you saying not tipping is being rude? I don't think so.

          Tipping should be purely optional and remain a way of expressing one's appreciation. It is not to make up for wages.

          The worst thing is if hospitality culture comes to the point where wait staff feel that tipping is their entitlement.

  • Any chance the waitress & manager were brought up around a culture that cuts cake before bringing it out? What sort of cuisine does the restaurant specialise in?

    I'd still be peaved though.

  • +3

    Whatever happened to such gatherings in the family home? Okay, if yours is too small for 16 people, another relatives?

    Only speaking from personal experience as this is what my immediate family do. Sure it's more work, but we have complete control over everything.

  • +11

    This is mindless stupid service. Normal practice is to present the cake whole at the table for any celebratory songs, blowing out of candles etc. then they take it back for cutting.

    Rightfully annoyed OP, moments like this with children are special and it's reasonable to want to record them in a particular way.

  • +13

    I'm sure it's annoying for you, but please move on. Try putting yourself in the waitress's shoes, you've been requested by other customers to cut the cake before, so you choose to do it for these people, especially as they paid the charge for you to do so. You do it, thinking you've done the right thing, and then you realise it's not what they wanted and you've got 16 angry faces staring at you.

    I'm quite sure she didn't go have a laugh, or didn't move on with her day quickly afterwards, it sounds like she was genuinely trying to help but stuffed up. She's probably been mulling it over since.

    Best to move on, don't say anything on social networks/Zomato. Mistakes happen, and while it spoiled the moment, it didn't spoil the food.

    • Could also be a week or two into the job, as long as the cake was still there, no worries.

  • +36

    I feel for the poor one year old child. That innocent young life may have been scarred forever. I believe you have the responsibility of filing a lawsuit for trauma, loss of earnings and loss of future enjoyment of life. It's the right thing to do

    • +3

      Should also sue the state/territory for allowing a business to operate that hires such staff /s

    • +5

      Why wont anyone think of the children!?

    • +1

      oh and don't forget to sue for the emotional distress this has caused for all involved…

  • +4

    Shock horror! Human being makes simple mistake!

  • +15

    Speaking of stuffing up b'day cakes..

    http://i.imgur.com/PRfeMbh.jpg

  • +27

    Your mother in law will get over it, she is prob ably the only one who really cares. everyone else is feigning empathy to shut her up. I've seen family member spend ages on birthday cakes etc and want to show everyone and we all look and go wow great job but at the end of the day no one really cares.

    • +2

      power of matriarchy

Login or Join to leave a comment