Neighbour Calling My Dog a B*Itch to My Kid

poboy on 28/08/2024 - 21:17
Last edited 29/08/2024 - 08:06 by 1 other user

I frequently take my dog for a walk with my young child. While walking home, my neighbour is often in his yard. Almost every time I see him he shouts out comments such as 'How's your bitch!' And then snarks.

My son clearly hears this. He has even repeated it while at the park with his old grandma.

I think my neighbour is aggressive because he plays music with the window open. My wife said I should just lie and tell him the dog is a boy, but I don't want my car scratched.

Should I just write him a letter?

Pets Dog

Comments

  • askbargain on 28/08/2024 - 21:18
    +1

    how old is your son?

    • jv on 28/08/2024 - 21:18
      +49

      28

    • poboy on 28/08/2024 - 21:44

      Son is 6

      • Montyjpm on 29/08/2024 - 07:33
        -3

        View this as to toughen him up. It's a tough world out there. Have him watch Breaking Bad and hear Jesse Pinkman biatch reference. JK

  • jv on 28/08/2024 - 21:18
    +4

    Should I just write him a letter?

    How do you know he can read?

  • CyberMurning on 28/08/2024 - 21:21
    +8

    Bikies

  • elgrande on 28/08/2024 - 21:22
    +2

    So how is your bitch?

    I used to talk to an older gentlemen who was into greyhound racing, he once told me he had a bitch at home he was trying to get pregnant.

    • iguana on 28/08/2024 - 22:27
      -7

      On Perth radio there's this host on 6PR called Steve Mills (Millsy) who is into horse racing, greyhound racing and gambling. Anyway, he uses the term "bitch" when talking about dogs. I don't know how he gets away with it on breakfast radio. I know it's the correct term for what he's using it for but it's still so crass.

      • ThithLord on 29/08/2024 - 08:43
        +4

        There's this broadcaster called Richard Wilkinson, Dick for short. Dunno how he gets away with it

  • Ozbar Gain on 28/08/2024 - 21:23
    +17

    Are you sure he's talking about your dog?

  • Jimothy Wongingtons on 28/08/2024 - 21:25
    +6

    Just ignore

  • JIMB0 on 28/08/2024 - 22:02
    +10

    Your either going to have to put up with it or be prepared to belt the crap out of the b*tch. There's no in between with these people.

    • kiitos on 29/08/2024 - 07:51
      +2

      But OP's dog hasn't doing anything wrong!

  • Benoffie on 28/08/2024 - 22:02

    Ignore, or tell him, if he asks again of your child, you'll let the dog go and he can find out himself.

  • pegaxs on 28/08/2024 - 22:32
    +16

    You don’t want to lie about the dogs sex for fear of your car being scratched, but you think it’s ok to send him a letter?

    Ignore it. These types only do it to get a rise out of people. Best you can do is just say something like, “oh, and a good afternoon to you too, Mr. Jenkins… lovely day for it” with a smile and a nod.

    • DashCam AKA Rolts on 28/08/2024 - 23:37
      +2

      and continue your walk with the dog in a wheelbarrow.

  • ausdday on 28/08/2024 - 22:36
    +10

    'How's your bitch!'

    How's your mom!

    • freshj1ve on 29/08/2024 - 11:02
      +3

      Don't you mean mum?

  • cashless on 28/08/2024 - 23:29
    +9

    How the flick is writing a letter going to defuse this situation?
    Just smile & wave. Bullies get quickly tired if no response to their baiting

  • randomusername2017 on 29/08/2024 - 00:30
    -2

    Better stock up on stationery…. there's every chance the child will be exposed to a lot more in the coming years ..

    Is life really this hard 🧠💣

  • BoltThrower on 29/08/2024 - 01:15
    +1

    Hit him with the "You tell me, how ARE you?"

  • morse on 29/08/2024 - 04:15
    +28

    Should I just write him a letter?

    No

    Conversation with son:
    “Hey bud, you know how our neighbour calls our dog a “bitch”? Well “bitch” is technically a word that you can use to describe a female dog, however we just call our dog “fluffy” [or whatever your dog is called]. Sometimes the word “bitch” is used in another way and it might upset people. Most people find the word “bitch” rude, so we don’t use that word in our family, especially not where someone might hear it, like a park.”

    Kid
    “so why does our neighbour say it?”
    You
    “Some people are old fashioned, don’t worry they don’t mean it like that. To be friendly to our neighbour we just ignore it”

    Kid
    “Is he being mean to our dog?”
    You
    “I don’t think so, I don’t think they know, but it’s best if we leave it alone as we want get along with our neighbours”

    Kid
    “What does bitch mean?”
    You
    “It’s a rude word that someone might say to be mean to someone. We don’t say word like that as we like to be kind to others”

    If you hear your kid say it
    “We don’t use that word”

    Neighbour might be aggressive, also might have mental health issues or just be a bit odd. If they make you feel uncomfortable minimise interactions and don’t let it get to you. Walk on the other side of the road, walk a different route or simply say a quick hello and smile and nod whilst still walking.

    DO NOT WRITE A LETTER! This is how things escalate.

    • AustriaBargain on 29/08/2024 - 06:18
      +10

      As Sun Tzu says, when going to war with your neighbour, leave no receipts!

    • EightImmortals on 29/08/2024 - 08:10
      +3

      Too complicated. When my son was that age and encountered something like what the OP is talking about I simply explained that some people are just (profanity) and they'd be saying stupid nasty things to whoever is in the vicinity. So don't take it personally, ignore them and make sure you don't end up acting like them yourself one day.

      • morse on 29/08/2024 - 08:37
        +7

        Yeah that too. For some reason I felt OP would benefit from clear and explicit instructions.

        • timthetoolman on 29/08/2024 - 09:59
          +1

          I appreciated the part where you clarified for them to use the correct name for the dog and not just Fluffy.
          I saw a response coming 'my dogs name isn't Fluffy'

    • 2esc on 29/08/2024 - 09:16

      The older generation doesn't use that word in front of kids the individual is the problem.

    • stickingly on 29/08/2024 - 11:48

      Perfect advice.

      There will be plenty more similar situations dealing with idiots in your lives, so the sooner he learns about it the better
      Just wait until you take him to the footy and hear some of the stuff that people yell out…….

  • apsilon on 29/08/2024 - 05:46
    +6

    Good, how's yours?

  • Dollar General on 29/08/2024 - 06:00
    +1

    Don’t bother with a letter. Send him pictures of people doing it doggie style and see if he gets the reference

  • AustriaBargain on 29/08/2024 - 06:17

    What genre of music?

  • ihbh on 29/08/2024 - 07:37
    +3

    While walking home, my neighbour is often in his yard

    Why don't you try to walk home the other way and avoid the neighbour? Even if you are on a cul de sac, walk home, walk on the other side of the road.

  • ihbh on 29/08/2024 - 07:39
    +7

    I think my neighbour is aggressive because he plays music with the window open

    Maybe he's just a p*ssy trying to give the impression that he's aggressive?

    • EightImmortals on 29/08/2024 - 08:11
      +1

      But he has a tattoo!

    • JIMB0 on 29/08/2024 - 08:59

      Most likely. Sounds like the typical insecure bully. They usually back down when confronted.

  • ihfree on 29/08/2024 - 08:31

    What music is he playing?

  • Peleon on 29/08/2024 - 08:47
    +2

    Thank you all. I was having a crummy morning, but after reading all this I am cry laughing into my cup of tea!

  • Cheaplikethebird on 29/08/2024 - 09:09

    As much as it must suck to get staunched in your own home it's probably best used as a teaching experience that there's just some f**kwits in this world who do shitty things and because of their shitty actions they live shitty lives and it all becomes a cycle of enshittification. They will try to drag others into their shitstorm of shittiness but the key is to not let your ego force you to react thus allowing the clouds of the shitstorm to enter your own life. Living a carefree and fulfilling life unbothered by others is the real staunch.

  • Boioioioi on 29/08/2024 - 09:11
    +3

    Take a dump in his yard

  • hueylewis on 29/08/2024 - 09:26

    Sounds like the neighbour is messaging a passive aggressive pejorative about the OP's wife?

  • 2esc on 29/08/2024 - 09:43
    +1

    Aggressive because of the type of music they play?

    Maybe rude and inconsiderate if excessively loud.

    Most certainly dont write a letter! Could create a nasty feud or confrontation.

    Walk a different way if that's not possible you could politely ask him to refrain from using that word in front of your but dont have this conversation while your child is with you in case the neighbour doesnt take it well(anger, more swearing).

    Personally I don't think its worth talking to him sounds like a moron who thinks its funny better if possible have as little interaction as possible.

  • 6079 Smith on 29/08/2024 - 09:56
    +1

    Tell your son that Bitch is the correct name for a female dog and that way he’ll be very popular at school for a week or so when he tells all the other kids.

  • freshj1ve on 29/08/2024 - 10:21
    +1

    Reply with: "Yeah, your mum is good. Thanks for asking!" ;)

  • CoreArchitect on 29/08/2024 - 10:26

    Dude. Is this something that occupies your thoughts? You might want to be careful, there are some strong winds around…

  • mapax on 29/08/2024 - 10:30

    How's your bitch!' And then snarks.

    Wouldn’t the snark be the comment? Do you mean smirks?

  • OzzyOzbourne on 29/08/2024 - 10:46

    You are making the assumption that you can teach these type of people the error of their ways in a civil manner…..you can't

    Explain to your son that it is the correct term for a female dog.

    Then explain how a lot of people, such as this guy, are born with brain defects, have a terrible upbringing and a sad life and it's best just to feel sorry for them

  • Wiede on 29/08/2024 - 10:52

    Marge has an advice for you

    https://youtu.be/jpzucq382ns?si=pTl0MKOYRIr87ko7

  • jacross on 29/08/2024 - 10:54

    If you don't want your son to use the term then explain that to your son.

    Your dog IS a bitch. Dr Harry said bitch on BHG a few months ago.

    If your neighbour is looking for a rise they are doing it in a fairly lame way. I suggest you get over it.

  • Yummy on 29/08/2024 - 10:57

    write him a letter

    Just unleashed ur purple-furred-trans-badboi biatch, in attack mode. No letter needed.

  • trapper on 29/08/2024 - 11:47

    The word "bitch" is considered rude precisely because it means female dog.

    When you call someone a bitch, you're comparing them to a female dog, which is why it's offensive.

    However, calling a female dog a bitch isn't rude - it's the correct term for a female dog.

    You can explain what the word means and still tell your son not to use it. Just like we teach them the words "penis" and "vagina" but expect them not to use them inappropriately.

  • Herbse on 29/08/2024 - 11:48

    Does he look like a bitch? - Samuel L Jackson

  • md333 on 29/08/2024 - 12:06

    You could let the neighbour know your bitch's name so he can use that instead of the generic term.

  • tsunamisurfer on 29/08/2024 - 12:09

    Of course he is just being a dill and trying to get a rise out of you.

    Just ignore him.

  • mecusherb on 29/08/2024 - 12:47

    Look out! Those aggressive music listeners are ones to really watch out for

  • photonbuddy on 29/08/2024 - 13:09

    He clearly knows it aggravates you, and that's your problem.

    When he asks, respond in a way that assumes he is actually interested in your dogs welfare. Tell him about how excellent her toileting has been, how many people got joy from patting her on her walk, and how you'll enjoy her company that night.

    By showing him his 100% correct usage of the word doesn't bother you, he'll stop it.

    Alternatively, if you worry he'll go on to something worse, just be curt but polite.

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