I remember years ago when you'd go in looking for a car they'd kiss your butt. Especially buying new.
However now because demand is so high it's like they don't even care. They don't call me back and I got told if I don't pay the full price there's 20 people in queue that will.
It feels weird to pay full price for a car. Are all dealers like this right now?
How much of a deal would you expect to be happy? 1k off the price and some mats?
If you're looking at common/popular cars, then yes, what you've experienced is the norm now.
If you really must experience the feeling of a dealer "kissng your butt", then go for the new cars that no-one else wants.