Advice to a Pre Teen about Teenage Life and Going into High School?

ElleV on 05/07/2019 - 15:49
Last edited 05/07/2019 - 15:59 by 1 other user

Hi All.
I'm adding to 'Letters to my child' to my oldest sons collection. (He has 3 letters so far). It's a sentimental keepsake letter for him to reflect on and understand the events as they happen.
This letter will be about the transition from primary to high school and becoming a teenager.

Things mentioned so far.
*Be the kind kid. It will be remembered past high school.
*It's ok to lose. Learn what you did wrong and try again till you get the outcome you want.
*Being 'cool' doesn't last a lifetime. (I don't know if there are 'cool' kids/group in high school anymore)
*Remember, bullies have some sad insecurities in their lives.

Any advice/point of view from you are welcome.

Thank you.

Toys & Kids

Comments

  • SnowDragon on 05/07/2019 - 15:54
    +10

    Sometimes you're friends with people just because you see them everyday.

    • tdrive on 05/07/2019 - 16:14

      THIS!

      And that's completely normal and okay

  • garetz on 05/07/2019 - 15:58
    +2

    Don't get caught up in what you think you want out of high school, instead recognise it is a short period of time in your life, and enjoy every moment you can.

  • [Deactivated] on 05/07/2019 - 16:31
    +2

    I would be more subtle. Show them the pictures of kids who were once cool. Maybe your yearbook and then the 20 year reunion, maybe movie stars. Let them work out that coolness is temporary. Choose some good ones. Google Leif Garrett then and now.

    One a 'stay away from drugs' note, it's amazing how effective the anti-heroin campaign in the 80s was. It was just black and white posters of junkies with only some scabs on their faces but it scared the daylights out of us kids forever.

    • ElleV on 05/07/2019 - 19:03

      Going through old year books and chatting about then and nows are a good idea.
      Oh life got to Leif.

  • Seraphin7 on 05/07/2019 - 17:12
    +3

    Don't peak in high school.

    • wittyusername on 06/07/2019 - 11:05

      I haven't even begun to peak. When I do peak, I'm going to peak so hard that everybody in Philadelphia is going to feel it!

  • Gronk on 05/07/2019 - 17:29
    +5

    If you have the runs, never trust a sneeze.

  • [Deactivated] on 05/07/2019 - 17:50
    +1

    Remember, bullies have some sad insecurities in their lives.

    Don't forget - People with insecurities believe others must have insecurities.

    • ElleV on 05/07/2019 - 19:04

      True. Might need to re-word when mentioning bullies.

      • [Deactivated] on 05/07/2019 - 19:10

        Bullies - don't give an inch. That's what I was taught.

  • crashloaded on 05/07/2019 - 18:51
    +1

    Actually, being cool does last a lifetime, they wrote a movie about it called Billy Madison.

    • [Deactivated] on 05/07/2019 - 19:27

      The swan incident? Billy lost it.

      • crashloaded on 05/07/2019 - 20:42
        +1

        It's too hot for a penguin.

  • original15 on 05/07/2019 - 18:57
    +1

    It's ok to lose. Learn what you did wrong and try again till you get the outcome you want.

    Sometimes you might not be doing anything wrong but still not “win”, and you might not ever get the outcome you want.. so I might reword those aspects

    Focus on the effort not the outcome is my advice

    • ElleV on 05/07/2019 - 19:08

      Yes! Thank you.

      • chickemugget on 05/07/2019 - 21:59

        Practice makes progress, take pride in how far you've come.

  • Diji1 on 05/07/2019 - 19:27
    +2

    I've noticed children learn martial arts, learn a musical instrument and join the debate team at school do well later on on life.

    • Kangal on 05/07/2019 - 22:07
      +4

      So they can karate that trumpet up your arse, then lecture you how it was your fault…

  • matt3 on 05/07/2019 - 19:58
    +2

    When I moved interstate to go to high school, my Dad told me that it was an opportunity to 'shed or discard' things about myself that I didn't like. I was moving to a place where no-one knew me, so people had no preconceived ideas of who I was. I could be the person I wanted to be (eg. confident, less nerdy, …) and no-one would put me back into the mould of the person I used to be. Sorry, maybe that suggestion is too out there, but I took Dad's advice and it worked for me.

    The other thing my Dad taught me was to learn people's names - and use them. When you meet someone, especially for the first time, get their name, look them in the eye, and shake their hand.

  • SBOB on 05/07/2019 - 21:59
    +1

    Don't stress over whether people like you or hate you, you'll meet them all again on the long journey to the middle

    • ElleV on 05/07/2019 - 22:25

      Yes! Will write that not everyone will like you and you've got to be ok with that.

  • TheRealCher on 05/07/2019 - 22:18
    +2

    Don't post your classmates' property on Oz bargain during regular term. Wait until sports carnivals, grab gear, post bargain, profit….

  • ihbh on 05/07/2019 - 23:29
    +1

    Why not watch the 7 Up series with your children and share your experiences to date to give him an even longer perspective.

    • ElleV on 06/07/2019 - 03:38

      Thank you. We'll definately be watching that.

    • [Deactivated] on 06/07/2019 - 09:00

      What were your major lessons from 63-Up? 1. Don't smoke. 2. Don't be involved in social/political activism. 3. Don't be careless with nuclear experimentation. (Actually he has throat cancer, so it might not be nuclear research related.)

      I thought the last episode really broke the premise of the child being a glimpse of the adult and the interviewer alluded to it.

      • ihbh on 06/07/2019 - 09:22
        +1

        Lessons for me for the whole series:

        • In the scheme of things life is very short so make the most of it and don't waste time. If you're in a bad relationship, get out, don't let it drag it on and on. If there's no meaning to your work or relationship, make a change (you don't need to wait for the public voice to give you a push - Peter).

        • Far sightedness is valuable to help you knuckle down and invest and persist.

        • (Modifier for point above) Make sure the ladder you climb is leaning against the right wall because if it takes many years, you don't want to find when you get to the top that it's leant against the wrong wall and then you drop dead just after retirement.

        • The right partner can compliment you and the two of you will blossom (the best example of synergy where 1+1 > 2).

        • Eat well and get lots of physical activity through out your life - the next episode if there is one will be telling of this. Look at the food Jackie feeds her kids. Genetics obviously plays a role (cf Lynn and Susan) but your lifestyle can make a big difference.

        • Hotties aren't out of reach of brainy guys - apparently Nick's current wife is 10 years his senior!
  • djones145 on 05/07/2019 - 23:37
    +1

    u tried and failed, the moral of the story is never try again

    also watch Simpsons it's awesome for one liners

  • Cheapascents on 05/07/2019 - 23:44
    +2

    Join a club outside of school to instill confidence in yourself. (martial arts, music band, anime club, etc)

    Leave drugs, alcohol and cigarettes alone, dont touch them.

    Practice safe sex if the time ever comes

    learn nutrition, so you are able to grow to your full extent, the genetics are set but nutrition is needed to reach the max potential, works especially well because you are going through puberty, the hormones are racing through your blood.

    keep your friend's circle small, theres always drama, especially in high school, honestly after high school you will never talk to most of them again. You will make friends and you will loose them

    dont bully other children and stand up for yourself if you get bullied, throw your hands if need be (dont bother telling the teacher, cut right through the butter and fight, 99% the bullying will stop, even if you win or loose the fight, respect and fear will be earned)

    just be you even if people don't like it, lifes too short to be something youre not

    try to get a part time job during high school days, it will serve you well in the future.

  • Ithinkimtheking on 06/07/2019 - 09:21
    +1

    Don't get pregnant or get someone pregnant, and don't be a (profanity)

  • CandyMan on 06/07/2019 - 12:16
    +1

    Join ozbargain, but some eneloops , never buy full price and take advantage of the eBay 20% off deals

  • MikeyMikeD on 10/07/2019 - 14:15
    +1

    It ends.

    It will consume you at times and the stakes will feel like they will make or ruin your life. But it ends, and you can be whoever you want to be for the rest of your life. No matter what happens there.

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