[NSFW] Who Should Be Paying for Condoms?

lusicul on 12/12/2014 - 10:14
Last edited 14/12/2014 - 09:32

Hey guys, just curious, who usually pay for condoms? is it the male or female?

I have been dating this guy for few months and the other day he complained about how expensive condoms are and he wanted me to start paying for condoms. But when I asked him if he would pay for birth control pills too if I were to start taking pills. He said NO.

Just wondering if it's normal for guys, especially in Australia to ask the girlfriend to chip in for condoms?

Thanks in advance

Update: Broke up with him, cried my eyes out but I will eventually be alright (I hope soon). Thanks to everyone for all the kind hearted messages and advices. It does helps to know that there are so many kind people out there

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      • rodinthink on 13/12/2014 - 18:44

        Now kiss. You find your soulmate

  • Cluster on 13/12/2014 - 02:49

    Who pays for the condom? The man, obviously. She pays for The Pill.

  • sparkles on 13/12/2014 - 04:07
    +4

    He's basically complaining that sex with you is not worth the $1 (or so) price of the condom. Get a new boyfriend.

    • deal seeking missile on 13/12/2014 - 05:50
      +3

      when you put it like that, all i can think is "what a prick!
      Dump that dumb ding dong."

      • sparkles on 13/12/2014 - 11:28
        +4

        No matter how much you want sex, it's such a damn insult that I wouldn't be having sex with him ever again. I mean, who on earth would even suggest this to someone they care about. It speaks volumes about his feelings for you and the type of person he is. The "cheapness" of it is the last of your worries.

  • woz on 13/12/2014 - 07:45

    Unless a guy really wants kids, why enter the minefield of having the girl obtain the condoms? Otherwise, there's the risk of using one of those special condoms with a hand-made pin-prick hole in the tip. No thanks. Becoming an unexpected father, then having the girl dump you and paying child support payments for the next 20 years… or pay for your own condoms. Not a difficult choice.

    • lusicul on 13/12/2014 - 07:54

      Because he knows I would never do something dodgy like that and he also knows I dont want to have kids yet.

      • eneloop on 13/12/2014 - 08:17

        Dont be a dummy, let him cum on your tummy

        • Tal_Shiar on 14/12/2014 - 15:31

          Hahahahahah, let's not discuss the honey pot

  • pheasant_plucker on 13/12/2014 - 09:04
    +7

    As a married man with a child I can assure you that I'd drag my aggotts over broken glass at the possibility of getting some and this bloke is complaining about the COST?!?!?

    Just wait till you get to married life and parenthood buddy, you'd pay 50 bucks a condom if it guaranteed you a sure thing. Opportunities are few and far between, like being stuck in a humping wasteland.

    • strangeloops66 on 14/12/2014 - 11:55

      I initially thought that your ID was a Spoonerism, but now I'm pretty sure that you really do defeather pheasants ;)

      • PJC on 14/12/2014 - 13:07

        (for the uninitiated, say this very quickly …)
        He's not a pheasant plucker
        He's a pheasant plucker's son
        And he's only plucking pheasants
        Till the pheasant plucker comes!

        (also very quickly …)
        Mrs Tiggy Wiggy's got a square-cut punt
        Not a punt cut square but a square-cut punt!
        (I'll get my coat …)

    • [Deactivated] on 14/12/2014 - 13:19

      The mrs and I did 365 days sex experiment …and it totally cured me of my ADHD ;)

  • hello007 on 13/12/2014 - 09:10

    Perfect solution:

    In this new Age Of Selective Entitlement …

    1. Write to Mr Rabbit.

    2. Ask him if you can get an advance on his $75k Paid Prostitution Lurk and $200 love cheque to pay for the condoms!

    3. This way you can avoid telling the BF that he's a scumbag. You can, with Rabbit's financial support at a time of massive economic crisis, still go forth and multiply at the time of your choosing!

    However, only problem is that the full amount is only available to Captain's Choice Mums who want to breed Captain's Choice babies in harbour view homes.

    Rest assured in your love pad knowing that this river of condom cash will be paid for by everyone else paying 5% more for everything they buy once companies pass on the cost to us with a profit margin.

    You win!

    Businesses win!

    Rabbit wins!

    The only losers are the poor non-Captain's Choice people who get to pay for all this with absolutely nothing in return!

    Enjoy! :-)

  • wayacos on 13/12/2014 - 09:46
    +4

    His dick,he should pay to cover it and the possibility of an unwanted child.
    he will be a real stand up kind of Dad one day.
    get out now and find a real man,you deserve better,much better.

  • supaderp on 13/12/2014 - 10:02
    +2

    I don't agree that the guy should be paying for everything. It should surely be determined on their financial status, I mean a relationship is a 2 person effort and you should be looking out for each others. To be frank, $10 is small money and I don't understand why it's such a big deal to post it up on OZB. When I was out of job, my girlfriend would offer to pay for my meals, petrol and groceries. But now that we both have jobs, I would buy her random gifts, wallets or bags, pay for fine dining experiences and recreational activities. That said, time to time she would still try to make it 50/50 but I would prefer a 70/30 or 60/40 payment basis. This is the type of person I would like to spend my life with.
    Whilst reading the comments, I think people have a perception that the guy is always up for it (which is not true) so he should pay. Imagine hosting a dinner event and your partner says, "you should be cooking since you are the woman", both are pretty sexist comments IMO.

    • supaderp on 13/12/2014 - 10:04
      +2

      Or you could tell him you are pregnant and ask him to give you money for your abortion to pay off his share of the holiday expenses. Then take "Davo1111" on the trip with ya.

      • Davo1111 on 13/12/2014 - 13:04

        yeee haaaaa

  • WT on 13/12/2014 - 11:03
    -3

    Buy dildo for yourself

    Buy vaso for him

    Within 1 month, he wong be a winy little bitch

    • DrStinge on 14/12/2014 - 07:46

      …what

  • ro0sta on 13/12/2014 - 11:14
    +2

    What a STRANGE strange question to ask on a website like this.

    To contribute to this bizarre discussion, I think this is on the male. What a cheapa$$.

  • gimme on 13/12/2014 - 11:24
    +1

    3 pages of comments on the most inane topic I've come across. Please shut down the internet now!!
    … then again some moron asked if people should use dish-washing liquid to shower with. Perhaps we should shutdown humanity altogether.

    • scrimshaw on 13/12/2014 - 12:46
      +3

      Plot Twist: OP is Kim Kardashian.

      • burningrage on 13/12/2014 - 13:11

        KK is Asian? That's news…

  • canleyheights on 13/12/2014 - 13:42
    -1

    I think he got a huge penis.
    That's why he expect you to pay for the condoms.
    That's why you always want sex from him.

      • DrStinge on 14/12/2014 - 07:48

        Misogyny ain't cool yo'

    • shaybisc on 13/12/2014 - 18:40

      "6) Big penises can be painful.

      EJ: When men discuss the merits of having a big penis, something that often gets overlooked is how excruciatingly painful it is for most women to have sex with a guy who has one. No matter how much of an ego trip it must be for a dude to be packing a Louisville Slugger instead of a Fisher Price toy, the sad truth is that it’s actually quite difficult for well-endowed men to find partners who are able to handle their equipment, because ladies, I don’t care if you’re the Virgin Mary or if you’ve had sex with the entire 1975 lineup of the New Jersey Nets: If you are not regularly having sex with a man with a big penis, it will hurt. A lot."

      http://www.salon.com/2014/07/17/7_biggest_myths_about_big_pe…

  • Shindo989 on 13/12/2014 - 13:43
    +6

    Tell him he has it lucky, My ex was allergic to latex and most other non-latex condoms. The only one we found that we could use was Trojan Naturalamb ones and a box of those was $50 for a box of 10.

    Oh… and not once did I complain about the price

    • iridiumstem on 13/12/2014 - 14:06

      I am just curious, do those feel different or are they just similar to latex but just with different material?

      • Shindo989 on 13/12/2014 - 14:33
        +3

        They do feel a little different but nothing that detracts from the enjoyment.

        Unless your brain is an asshole and halfway though the thought pops into your mind "my dick is wrapped in the intestine of an animal that someone may of eaten for dinner"

        In that case sometimes then they do feel a little diffent

        • iridiumstem on 13/12/2014 - 14:35

          So similar to how Brain goes, "No, you are not doing the girl, you are doing rubber" feeling?

        • Shindo989 on 13/12/2014 - 15:03
          +1

          yes, but the rubber was never alive possibly in a petting zoo

        • iridiumstem on 13/12/2014 - 15:11
          +1

          @Shindo989: MY CHILDHOOD RUINED… Also, I feel like lamb skewers for some reason.

  • tyler.durden on 13/12/2014 - 13:49
    +1

    This is thread reminds me of an episode on seinfeld..

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfQBKB4s1ks

    • Tal_Shiar on 13/12/2014 - 14:53

      hahaha, already knew it before I clicked the link!

      • tyler.durden on 13/12/2014 - 15:09
        +3

        You can learn everything about life, just by watching Seinfeld..

        It is the greatest show of all time…

  • samvox on 13/12/2014 - 14:10
    +1

    Mad one good cup of coffee is 4 bucks. Exactly what the other dude said. Wait till you get married kids and are exhausted 50 bucks for a sure thing is a great deal. Dump for sure.

  • superklue on 13/12/2014 - 15:15
    +1

    He's complaining about paying $1 for sexy times with his partner? A box of 12 costs $8-9 from the supermarket.

    'Hey baby… Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You'

  • Aneurism on 13/12/2014 - 15:40
    -1

    Lol there seems to be a lot of beta males in here

  • luckytrio on 13/12/2014 - 16:00
    -7

    I yelled at my bf in the chemist "Oh my god you want ME to pay for condoms, aren't you a MAN?" That was the end of that conversation. I don't care if it is sexist, a boyfriend should treat you like a lady! Mind you, condoms are the only thing my bf paid for as I worked while he studied for several years lol.

    • iridiumstem on 13/12/2014 - 16:13

      This is wrong… so wrong. I do understand that you might be upset about your boyfriend not buying the condom, I will try to accept that. I can sort of imagine how you might see that as the only investment he makes in your relationship. If he had no income and had to live on a limited budget, I think he had excuses, not saying that you should accept it or condone it, but I am simply saying that there is an explanation to his behaviour.

      FFS, I had $100 per week as my disposable income and I still paid for my condoms, but that was because I knew that my girlfriend would feel really really bad if she knew that I am spending a lot because she has allergies. It was my decision, I don't expect everyone to make the similar decision nor I think it is the only correct answer. Also I didn't have to cut much anyways, so it might not apply to what your boyfriend was going through.

      Guys should treat their girlfriends like ladies, not because of sexes, but because there needs to be mutual respect between two people in the relationship. As much as I believe that guys should treat their girlfriends with respect, I believe it works in opposite direction.

      Why did you need to humiliate yourself and your boyfriend like that in public?

      • Daabido on 13/12/2014 - 19:57

        I look forward to the thread where he graduates, gets a great job and then dumps you, citing the "chemist condom incident".

        And I'm pretty sure the next time you were intimate after that emasculating encounter he was definitely thinking of you!

    • Davo1111 on 13/12/2014 - 23:04
      +1

      Next time he sees you out in the street, he should yell "oh my god what are you doing out of the kitchen?" the drag you back home where you belong.

      Perhaps you should join the 21st century of equality.

  • No ONE on 13/12/2014 - 16:10
    +1

    Lol he is having FREE SEX and now he wants FREE CONDOM… Which planet you said he came from?

  • pgcs on 13/12/2014 - 16:14
    +2

    Sounds like he's just not that into you. It's up to you to keep it that way.

    :)

  • goosegog on 13/12/2014 - 16:36
    +5

    This idiot is a total waste of your time. With an attitude like that he will never be a decent partner in your life. Move on - have one last boring quickie with him where you do provide the condom, then show him the door saying " Thanks but no thanks - Goodbye " That should deflate his ego & probably lots of other parts of him as well.

    • chipstss on 13/12/2014 - 18:10

      Definitely (profanity) him one last time will show him. kek

  • AussieDolphin on 13/12/2014 - 17:37
    +2

    He may be good looking but that doesn't mean his heart is in the right place! How do you know he doesn't gloat to his friends about taking you for a ride? Seems to me this man has a whole lot of growing up to do and as for you don't settle just for looks. That alone will not bring you happiness!.
    '

  • srhardy on 13/12/2014 - 18:51
    -1

    best thread ever… you must be young, best thread ever

  • chumlee on 13/12/2014 - 22:25
    +2

    Maybe he`s getting to much action too often. If all it took for me to have sex with my partner was to pay for condons I would be setting up a trade account with Ansell.

    • iridiumstem on 13/12/2014 - 22:53

      And this is why we live right next to condom companies, so that we can get them cheap and we can get them fast.

  • chonghe on 13/12/2014 - 23:12

    honestly when I saw the title I read as "Why" because condom can be gotten free at times.
    Never thought of the question "Who"

  • Weezle on 14/12/2014 - 00:53

    I wish I was getting laid for only $1

  • Cyphar on 14/12/2014 - 01:36
    +3

    he complained about how expensive condoms are

    Remind him how expensive babies are

  • lusicul on 14/12/2014 - 01:46
    +29

    Update: I just broke up with him. He didn't try to convince me to stay. He actually laughed and said "if thats what you want" and walked away. My heart is breaking in pieces. I felt used and feel so so stupid. I am an idiot :(

    • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 01:49
      +4

      :( I hope you are fine. It was all him, it wasn't you. You will find someone nice. Hell, you even had people making a move on you on the internet. He just wasn't the right one for you. One day you will find someone who will make your day, you just have to wait till that time comes.

      • lusicul on 14/12/2014 - 02:03

        I am not sure if I can ever be in a relationship again. I honestly thought he had feeling for me, I was so naive. I am regretting not punching his face just now, I just sat there and cried like an idiot.

        • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 02:06
          +4

          :( I pm'ed you just in case you wanted to talk it over with someone.

          I think most people from this thread, if not all, thinks that your ex didn't deserve you. You clearly were better person than he was. I simply hope that you don't blame it on yourself. You simply haven't found/met the right person yet.

        • PJC on 14/12/2014 - 02:54
          +9

          It is time for you to understand you are too good for his insincerity. Soon you will be so thoroughly delighted he is no longer in your life.

    • juventino on 14/12/2014 - 02:03
      +6

      Edit : You WERE an idiot. At least you learned something. You picked the worst of the worst 'bad guy'. The one trait that is common within my so called 'bad guy' friends and colleagues is that they aren't that calculative with money, certainly if it's only a couple bucks.

      If you're in Melb, I'll take you to this awesome burger place ( which vouchers I got from scoopon ). No expectation. Just to show you that your days ahead of you are going to be a lot better that whatever time you've spent with your ex bf.

      If anyone here can set up an account, I ( and probably others)will be glad to 'chip in' a few dollars so you can buy some boxes of condoms and throw it at his face :)

      Good luck

      • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 02:08

        Can we fill the condoms with mayo? I think he deserves that much at the very least.

        iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 02:08 (Collapsed - Offtopic. Show)
        • juventino on 14/12/2014 - 02:11
          +1

          mayo ?? why not Sriracha ? :)

        • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 02:13

          @juventino: Because mayo looks more… white, viscous and reminds you of… you know. It will make him feel disgusted, pretty much like what I feel about him right now. :P

        • juventino on 14/12/2014 - 02:17

          @AznMitch:
          apparently there is 'sriracha mayo' in the market. Similar to mayo but with added 'burning' sensation.

        • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 02:31

          @juventino: If you were a salesman/woman, I think you would sold a lot of stuff, because you are making me go "Shut up and take my money"

      • Mysterious on 14/12/2014 - 02:09
        -3

        Maybe you should try www.adultmatchmaker.com.au/?

        • juventino on 14/12/2014 - 02:18

          Looks like you've tried it. How did it go ?

    • PJC on 14/12/2014 - 02:45
      +3

      Excellent news. Get him totally out of your life. You will end up feeling much better about yourself. He was more loyal to booze than you. He thought your patience was a weakness.

    • Davo1111 on 14/12/2014 - 02:54
      +6

      Life goes on. I look at this as a '1 step back, 2 steps forward' situation. You feel a bit crap, but you've learnt from the relationship and want to move on.

      chin up. :)

  • Zuban on 14/12/2014 - 09:01
    +1

    I see if condom is expensive then what will be in future? Howvwill afford you after marriage and how will afford child? I guess this guy want he wants so future with him like catching star.

  • hello007 on 14/12/2014 - 09:31
    +2

    It only took four screens of hilarious neanderphallic comments from the big question to the break up.

    Anyways, I hope you find your true love in life.

    You can always turn to Ozbargain's esteemed college of neanderphalls for excellent, quality, reliable advice! :-)

    Thanks guys! :-)

    • iridiumstem on 14/12/2014 - 09:59

      Comment numbers exceeding the numbers of comments on the charity thread too :P
      I feel so proud and so bad about this at the same time.

  • lansi23 on 14/12/2014 - 09:42
    +2

    i say good move OP.
    sounds like he was just using you for sex and free meals.
    better late than never.
    now you can move on with your life.

  • [Deactivated] on 14/12/2014 - 10:49
    +6

    Sorry to hear your predicament & that you broke up. Hopefully he will end up as a weird story for you and your girlfriends.

    I once dated a girl whom one day brought up that she thought she should be paying for 50% of the condoms. It was hilarious. I laughed and told her ok, next time I get them I'll let you know how much.

    We were living in NZ at the time, and not many people know this, but you can get 12x 12 packs of condoms prescribed (heaps of different brands/sizes/types) for $3 when you go to the doctors, covered by the NZ health system. As I go every 3 months to the doctor for hay fever meds, I also grab a 144 pack of condoms most times I go, as hey, $3 for 144 condoms is a bargain!

    A couple weeks later I turned up at her place with a slab of 144 condoms, and told her she owes me $1.50 :). 8 years later I still remember the look on her face. Great times. Unfortunately it didn't work out with her for other reasons.

    Chin up Lusicul :)

  • [Deactivated] on 14/12/2014 - 11:03
    +2

    Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on.Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness :)

    • andrewzx on 14/12/2014 - 12:17
      +1

      won't those seeds die from all the sodium

  • strangeloops66 on 14/12/2014 - 12:12

    OP, I'm available in February Will pay my 1/2 up front.

  • samuraifan on 14/12/2014 - 13:15
    +2

    Good work OP. I am sure it would have been tough but it will only make you stronger :)

  • Gorodemon on 14/12/2014 - 14:21
    -2

    You need a rebound guy - I'd be more than happy if you pick me. I'll wine and dine you and you won't be hearing me saying let's go halfsies ;)

  • berger on 14/12/2014 - 14:51
    +16

    I wonder how many ozbargain users have sent you a private messages for a first date!

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