[QLD] Housemates Hit Me Twice in past Year and I Want to Break The Lease. Options?

jonathonsunshine on 19/12/2023 - 04:49
Last edited 19/12/2023 - 13:45

Hello!

I'm living in a sharehouse with one other person, we argue from time to like anyone but he's a big guy and I'm like 65kg and he's not above getting physical, a few days a go he pushed me through the wall (plaster board). "Look what you did!"

At the same time, both my parents are very sick so I've decided to move back in with them and I've told the realestate thats why I want to go.

I'm now starting to get quite concerned, it looks a bit like i can't break the lease without both of us agreeing on an exit date and if I move out, it may be possible for him to just … stay there? Meanwhile, I'm still liable for half the rent.

I don't wanna go thermonuclear, and honestly, I can be bit of a dick but I shouldn't have to live in a house where I know that ultimately, any disagreement can be ended with me getting hit in the side of the head or pushed through another wall.

Thank you :(

*Update

I can complete a "Domestic and Family Violence Report Form" and get it signed by my GP…
https://www.rta.qld.gov.au/forms-resources/forms/forms-for-g…

Then hand in a form, "Notice Ending Tenancy – ‘NET’" to realestate?
https://www.rta.qld.gov.au/notice-ending-tenancy-interest-do…

Then I pay a weeks rent and I'm out of there?

This seems too easy? As in, it would be very easy to abuse?

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Comments

  • o53djz7qTPY4der on 19/12/2023 - 05:07
    +27

    You go to the police, immediately.

      • o53djz7qTPY4der on 19/12/2023 - 05:14
        +11

        Why do you care? The guy is physically violent towards you. He sounds like a turd.

        Tell them what happened, when, your injuries, how you feel.

        You need to do something before the physical violence towards you or his next victim becomes more serious.

      • avoidfullprice on 19/12/2023 - 05:22
        +10

        That’s the point of going to the police and explore some options to make you safe. Like Get a DVO against him so you have ground to break lease.

        https://tenantsqld.org.au/factsheets/if-violence-affects-you…

        You are reaching out for help - kudos. But being defensive towards people offering help/shutting down suggestions/treating any form of complaint as thermonuclear option will just cause you more internal conflict unnecessarily.

        Unless you know a doc with a delorean fitted with a flux capacitor, and turn your mate Biff into a personal car washer ;)

      • EightImmortals on 19/12/2023 - 08:51
        +3

        Stop being a victim. I've known a few abused people over the years and they all say the same types of things. "I don't want to cause trouble' "He really is a nice guy deep down", "he promised never to do it again (again)". etc

        My advice is always to 'get out' (sometime easier said than done) and that 'nice guys' don't beat you and screw around.

        In your case though those things weren't mentioned so I assume they don't apply. Get out, and call the cops to file a report, then contact the real estate agent and let them know what's going on and that you want you name taken off the lease.

      • Kail on 19/12/2023 - 09:57
        +2

        You don't want to screw up his life, but you're fine with him screwing up the life of his next victim?

      • Protractor on 19/12/2023 - 10:34

        have this forum page open on your laptop, in a place in the house where he will sticky beak while you are out. on a walk.
        Before you know it he will kick you out as he arranges the next punching bag,inward. If he plays up, go to your safe (parents) location and call the cops and get a VRO.

      • 1st-Amendment on 19/12/2023 - 10:37
        +1

        I don't want to file charges and I don't want to…

        So what are you doing here?

        Could you please be a little more specific, what you think I should say to them, what you think will happen?

        Just tell them exactly what happened. When someone puts their hands on you it's assault. If you do nothing it will only continue and likely get worse.

      • brad1-8tsi on 19/12/2023 - 14:30
        +2

        If the dude is violent towards you then he's probably violent towards others including women and maybe children. Violence in an argument is usually because the person cannot articulate their POV or emotions.

        Nobody has to live with violence and it's wrong to normalise it.

      • Ghost47 on 19/12/2023 - 19:47

        As others have said, if you don't teach this guy a lesson he's just going to keep doing the same sh*t to other people, so you need to teach him a lesson.

  • franco cozzo on 19/12/2023 - 05:19
    -1

    is your house mate this guy:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbV0Apr1GIg

  • conant on 19/12/2023 - 06:36
    +8

    Going to the police is more for record rather than solve the dispute. It will be part of the supporting evidence when you break the lease. It will help you to justify that either you break the lease or your will be broken.

    • jonathonsunshine on 19/12/2023 - 07:21
      +1

      I wasn't going to upvote you cause I really have no idea, but i have even less idea why you got negged so upvoting to just counteract that. Seemed like a good faith comment to me.

  • screensaver on 19/12/2023 - 07:19
    +4

    dv is grounds to break lease in nsw

  • JIMB0 on 19/12/2023 - 07:51

    Call the bikies. They'll be more effective than the police.

    • 1st-Amendment on 19/12/2023 - 10:32

      Call the bikies. They'll be more effective than the police.

      What's their customer support number?

  • garetz on 19/12/2023 - 08:36
    +1

    First you make a police report, then you file a restraining order, have the police escort him out.

    Have him removed from the lease, talk to a solicitor to get that done, then rescind the lease and gtfo.

  • cookie2 on 19/12/2023 - 09:03
    +2

    Go to police, do a stat dec. Give it to the property managers and leave. Also if you're a dick too, stop the cycle.

  • bobbified on 19/12/2023 - 10:24

    it looks a bit like i can't break the lease without both of us agreeing on an exit date

    Tell him to either agree on an exit date or you go to the cops.

  • 2jzzzz on 19/12/2023 - 11:11

    Can tenants union

  • sim777 on 19/12/2023 - 11:50
    +1

    He's physically abused you multiple times and pushed you through a plaster wall and you are worried about what will happen to him?

  • jonathonsunshine on 19/12/2023 - 13:46

    Updated original post with my current thoughts.

  • Protractor on 19/12/2023 - 15:37

    "This seems too easy? As in, it would be very easy to abuse?"

    Yes. But that's just the world we live in, and the quality of humans within it.
    Not sure even Karma can keep up any more.

  • Meho2026 on 19/12/2023 - 15:38

    If you dont want to report the violence, then read this, these are your options
    https://tenantsqld.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/Termina…

    If you decide to report the violence. You do need that Domestic and Family Violence Report Form as evidence and follow this guide
    https://tenantsqld.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/When-Vi…

    The Domestic and Family Violence Report Form doesn't need to be completed by GP. if you know a Registered Nurse, they can do it. If you don't know a Registered Nurse, ask a friend, nearly everyone knows of someone who's a nurse.

    There is something psychologically wrong with your housemate. Its not normal behaviour to get physical in a disagreement.

    Best case scenario, hes full of anger and rage combined with a lack of self control, worst case hes a psychopath.

    Agressive behaviour like that always gets worse over time because its reinforced by a feeling of power and dominance.

    You need to get out of there.

  • Protractor on 19/12/2023 - 16:44

    " Its not normal behaviour "

    "There's no love, inside the ice house"

  • Kail on 19/12/2023 - 18:57
    +1

    This seems too easy? As in, it would be very easy to abuse?

    Leaving is the most dangerous time in a domestic violence situation.
    They try to make it as easy as possible to reduce the amount of hospitalisations and deaths.

    • jonathonsunshine on 20/12/2023 - 03:19

      lol, I DARE the person who negged this to say so publicly. What a pos.

  • Downvoter on 19/12/2023 - 22:53

    You’re not in a dv relationship so you’re not getting a DVO for starters.

    • Protractor on 20/12/2023 - 00:00
      -1

      Correct.
      He aint someone else's bitch, he's his own bitch,apparently

    • jonathonsunshine on 20/12/2023 - 03:21
      -2

      Never said I was in DV relationship and also said I wanted to avoid the courts and cops.

      • Downvoter on 20/12/2023 - 09:32
        +1

        You said you could get a dfv report signed by a GP…

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