So we are hosting Christmas at our house again this year for our own family plus both sets of parents and a few friends.
Generally we ask each party to bring something to contribute to the meal and for the last two years my own parents were designated to bringing some prawns…
but last year my parents said "Can we just give you some money and you get the prawns?" … "Ummm… sure.", so that's what we did.
This year mum asked me the same question and I ended up saying to her that it's actually about lightening the load on us so would prefer if she could just go and buy some and bring them on Christmas day. I think she was slightly taken aback although I said it in the politest way I could.
My parents are elderly but still able to get out to the local shops. They have also started to do the same thing when it comes to buying presents for the kids "Can I give you some money and you buy something nice for child X?", this is perhaps a little more understandable as they have a hard time knowing what to buy kids these days.
So what do you guys do in similar situations?
I'd imagine they just want to be looked after but don't feel comfortable with someone else fronting the bill, so they hand over money in exchange for you essentially just running an errand for them.