Family Members Cat Attacking Me and Fiancé

tommo0468 on 03/12/2021 - 13:38
Last edited 03/12/2021 - 14:46

Okay so a bit of an odd one. About 6 months ago we got a kitten. For the fist few weeks we would take her with us whenever we stayed the night at my parents house (in a cat carrier with all her toys etc..). My parents already have a cat at their house. As expected the cats do not get along and would hiss at each other each time they saw one another. We always locked our kitten up in its own room so they would not fight.

Anyway, now, the Cat at my parents house has associated My Fiancé and I with our cat and now hisses, grows and even attacks us!. It is actually quite frightening as she will actively chase us. As you can understand I do not want to hurt the cat but if it latched onto me I'd use force to get it off.

Previous to all of this the Cat was pleasant and no issues at all. The Cat is normal when we are not there.

Any suggestions as to change its behavior? We have tried being nice and calm and avoiding the cat but it is just savage at this point.

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Comments

  • Massive Flog on 04/12/2021 - 13:30
    +5

    Take your parents (and the offending cat) to VCAT.

    • ozbjunkie on 04/12/2021 - 14:39

      Maw this was cute

  • D Money on 04/12/2021 - 14:30

    When you're staying there. Be the only person to feed the cat. She'll then associate you with her delicious food.

    • ozbjunkie on 04/12/2021 - 14:38

      I suggest allowing the cat to extend the claws a dig a little into the skin, it will be satisfying for the cat and it may crave this form of intimacy. If you're sensitive, you'll feel the difference between a mild irritation in the dermis and a slightly deeper gouge which penetrates the more peripheral capillaries. When this happens, don't pull away, just growl softly at the cat, like a dull roar.

      This is how I communicated with my adopted ex cat. RIP

  • ozbjunkie on 04/12/2021 - 14:35

    Wrap a jumper around your arm and feed it to the cat like it's an attack dog

    Some cats are dogs, and they are just checking whether you're a sweet as bitch or something else

  • ozbjunkie on 04/12/2021 - 14:39
    +1

    PPS if cats want to (profanity) you up they don't scratch you they bite

    And cat bites are worse than rat bites, and almost as bad as a human

  • AEKaBeer on 04/12/2021 - 15:00
    +3

    My wife's cat hated me when I first moved in. The solution to months of being attacked was for me to take over feeding duties for a while. Everyday I'd make a show of pouring the food in her bowl and place it in front of her. Took about a month or so, but it put a stop to the aggression.

  • Strikes on 04/12/2021 - 15:41
    -3

    U have every right to protect ur self in ur own house or other place! If u have video, complain to police, they will eradicate the cat just like biting dog. Love can be shared not violence/ physical or mental torture.

  • Yorkshire-Man on 04/12/2021 - 16:29

    This is why I'm a dog person

  • BartholemewH on 04/12/2021 - 16:54
    +3

    Call Harry? He's out on the road, helping us out, if there's a pet with a problem, he'll sort it out. Because they're all part of our family, the great and the small, and Harry's a friend to them all.

  • Pungentia on 04/12/2021 - 17:43

    Bikies

  • BeamMeUp on 04/12/2021 - 17:58

    That’s an angry and stubborn cat. We have a cat and visit other families with dogs and cats with no scent issues. Maybe get your parents to lock the cat in another part of the house or outside, if it’s an outside cat, when your there. Some people seem to forget that humans are more important than animals and when they have visitors to manage their angry pets.

  • jonathonsunshine on 04/12/2021 - 19:01

    We got two cats to like each other by constantly scratching them under the chin. Scatch cat A and then cat B (and vice versa) without washing your hands. They get pheromones transferred to each other and become besties.

    It's also possible they just finally chilled the fck out…

  • No ONE on 04/12/2021 - 22:20

    Sue the cat.

  • pompompom on 04/12/2021 - 23:12

    Piss all over the cat. Assert your dominance and mark your territory. Let the cat know who is boss. If that doesn't work flinging your poop at it definitely will.

  • Pidapipo on 05/12/2021 - 02:07

    Like some helpful comments in the thread have pointed out, the problem here is that you are carrying the scent of your cat over there and unknowingly invading your parents’ cat’s territory. The first time they met went very wrong and their cat associated your cat’s scent with troubles. Mind you that your parents’ cat is also an aggressive and stubborn one.

    The easy solution can be leaving some clean clothes at your parents’ and change into those whenever your are there. Buy catnip spray (if the cat reacts to it) or Feliway spray and use that on you. Approach the cat slowly then feed them treat so they reassociate you with goodness.

    The long solution will be doing the scent swapping some have suggested. Sit down with your parents and dig out the history of their cat. Has the cat ever socially associated with other cats? Does it have a history of (territorial) fighting? Some cats simply won’t accept other cats, at which point your only solution is to eliminate the scent of your cat whenever you visit.

  • shaybisc on 05/12/2021 - 09:26

    A few tickles with a broom.

  • SirCH on 05/12/2021 - 10:08

    So firstly is the cat used to any sort of punishment? Hitting or kicking the cat won't help. It will just want to attack you more either out of aggression or because it thinks you're playing. My cat understands the word "no" so I can use that whenever he's misbehaving.

    Feliway comes highly recommended by a number of vets I've spoken to, to help calm a cat.

    And definitely bringing a reward for the cat as soon as you get there (being careful to not reward it for attacking you). An old cat would hide whenever anybody new came along. But a new person who brought a cheeseburger meal from McDonald's was his best friend!

    And with introducing new cats, it's totally possible but you have to do it properly. I won't go into detail here but there's many help articles online.

  • Lockieasy on 05/12/2021 - 12:12

    I'm not a cat person but like any pet you can probably just buy their affection with treats.

  • [Deactivated] on 05/12/2021 - 14:00

    It's funny how muppets read stories like these and their first response is to use it to justify why they're a cat/dog person. Cat or dog, some pets misbehave if not trained properly, some breeds require more training than others. Throw in individual personalities as another variable as well.

  • OneJay on 05/12/2021 - 16:53

    Have you been giving your cat it’s medication?

  • FW190 on 05/12/2021 - 17:22

    maybe stop visiting for a while so your parent's cat "forgets" about you two?

    otherwise, if you must visit your parents because <insert reasons>, then maybe ask your parents to lock the cat in a room before you guys arrive.

  • Raj09 on 05/12/2021 - 20:58

    There's a French rap…. Avec du sel et du poivre. " have it with salt and pepper 😂"

  • T1OOO on 05/12/2021 - 21:17

    Something dosnt add up with the OPs story, I’m waiting for the cats side of it first before making my mind up

    Meow meeoooo meeoo

    Hrmm

    Meeeeeooo

    Oh right !

  • jaffar on 06/12/2021 - 00:41

    Spray bottle with water to stop the attack. Cat treats when it stops attacking.

  • shreav on 06/12/2021 - 10:03

    Hi I am not sure if this has been mentioned but it can be due to the scent of your own cat on yourselves which your parents' cat is now associating. Perhaps get some kind of deep fragrance and marinate yourselves in it to see if it makes a difference.

  • eklipsils on 06/12/2021 - 14:27
    +1

    I read an article once where the girlfriend of a "crazy" cat had gone on holidays and the boyfriend had taken it to a local shelter and swapped it with an identical looking cat but was much more pleasant and when the girlfriend came back from her trip, she never noticed it was swapped! hahhaha

    • KSMLJ on 07/12/2021 - 11:01

      Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think shelters allow swaps willy-nilly.

  • Scantu on 06/12/2021 - 14:41

    Just hit it if it attacks you, not hard, but assertively. It'll stop. It also won't be your friend but if you literally just want it to stop attacking you… You are a huge animal compared to the cat, it'll learn

  • weezlebub on 06/12/2021 - 14:54

    a different approach (only if your cat wasn't aggressive and was just being a curious kitten), wrap your parents cat in a towel (pin it down) and let your cat go over and try to make friends (i guess a travel box would also work) … having a physical barrier and the two cats in close proximity is your best bet, get it used to the kittens smell, with no ability to cause damage

  • shaybisc on 07/12/2021 - 09:02

    Spray a little Obsession For Men cologne on yourself before meeting aggressor - cats love it. If Obsession For Men is not your thing try Carman’s Raccoon Lure Number 1 - almost as good.

  • suntap on 07/12/2021 - 13:19

    After my 2nd husband first moved into my family home, my cat suddenly started to vomit or crap at least a couple times a day. She was fully house trained and this was new behaviour. the strange thing was she always did this in the same place everyday - in the garage right where my new husband would have to step to get in or out of his car. I took her to the vet thinking she was sick but he said she was very healthy, but the behaviour continued. Next step she stayed in the vet hospital for a few days as I was convinced she must have cancer or something. Vets observed her and she didn't vomit once and was healthy and well behaved. So vet asked if anything had changed at home and I told him I was recently remarried so vet asks if I asked the cats permission for new hubby to move in. Stunned, I said No, I asked the kids but never thought to ask the cat! He said she was depressed and gave her medication which I called her (profanity) prozac. I didn't continue with the meds for very long and she eventually got over it.

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