Might bring this into work and hand it to some customers
Same but for my bosses..
Thanks OP. Got a copy :)
oops, didn't realise I put US link, updated main link to AU one now
normally posters provide both links
Hey Sailor. Your link is for the US store.
Bought, thanks op.
How many did you buy, broden?
It shows you purchased the item even if it is free. For any ebook regardless of the cost, it will only allow you to purchase once.
I don’t respect your opinion.
Cool story random internet stranger.
Whereas your name is…?
And you should be entitled to that opinion. Isn't freedom a wonderful thing?
You obviously didn't read the book. And yeah, wanna calm down now champ?
Read as much as Amazon would allow. First few pages are red flags, it was enough.
Your opinion looks like it belongs in the 50s
Explain that one to me, makes zero sense.
Everyone deserves respect until they prove otherwise. I think you have just proven otherwise.
'Respect your elders'….'Greeting the bus driver should be a new rule'….'you must be quiet'….'don't talk out of turn'..literal quotes from the book…why force this kind of behaviour on kids when they are naturally going to treat people respectfully if those people deserve their respect. Ie, I don't deserve my kids unwavering respect for merely being their parent or kids should be quiet because its inconvenient. You people are missing the big picture because this is what you were taught growing up and it shows.
I agree with you that children should not be taught to be polite no matter what the circumstances, seen not heard etc. It sets them up to be more susceptible to abuse.
I have to admit you came off a bit differently with your initial comment though, as in my experience, a lot of people use the 'respect should be earnt' maxim to mean 'I can be abusive to you until you prove your worth to me'.
@Duck Mode: +1
Standing up for yourself/your interests isn't mutually exclusive with being compassionate and polite when appropriate.
Also @Rapture, depending on which theory of moral development you look at,young children wouldn't necessarily treat others with respect by default (with no other pressure). Most parenting books will agree that teaching (or at least demonstrating) conventional morals is a part of parenting.
young children wouldn't necessarily treat others with respect by default
Which is why I think he made the comment, This book is pretty much saying you should. And I don't agree with that either.
He didn't say don't be polite, he said respect should be earned. And it sounds like most people agree on that.
@1st-Amendment: Most people would agree that you shouldn't treat others with respect by default..? That's not what I got from reading the comments
I think most people agree that there's a basic level of courtesy and respect you should give everyone unless they really prove that they don't deserve it.
That's not what I got from reading the comments
I think most people agree that there's a basic level of courtesy
Courtesy and respect are two completely different things.
@1st-Amendment: I'm well aware,I specifically wrote ' and respect' .
Edit: you might also want to Google the word respect and look at the second definition. That's how I,and I think most of the commenters,am using it. We might not be on the same page.
Edit: you might also want to Google the word respect and look at the second definition.
Lol you realise that Google tailors search results based on their profile they have of you, so your results are likely to be different to mine.
If I Google 'respect' I get movie times for a movie about Aretha Franklin…
@1st-Amendment: I didn't specify since I expected you to google "define respect" or "respect definition". That's how you normally find a definition for a word :)
Sorry I assumed.
I'll paste it here to avoid further confusion;
Respect
/rɪˈspɛkt/
2.due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others.
"young people's lack of respect for their parents"
Similar: due regard , consideration
I didn't specify since I expected you to google
I don't need to google words to know what they mean. Maybe that's where you're going wrong…
@1st-Amendment: I asked you to google it because there are multiple definitions and I wanted to direct you to the one I was operating on. No need to be snarky.
It appears that we are on the same page,in which case I completely disagree with you.
The idea that you need to "earn" basic empathy,regard and concern for your personhood encourages (and in a way,embodies) antisocial behaviour. I definitely dont think it should be taught widely to children.
I asked you to google it because there are multiple definitions
And you chose the second one, meaning there's more than one definition, but you ignored that because it didn't suit you.
@1st-Amendment: What doesn't suit me exactly? I specifically directed you to a definition because that idea was what I was referring to and wanted to know if we were referring to the same concept. I referred to the definition as the "way I was using it" multiple times.
By no means am I saying that's the only definition or imply that you did not know the definition of the word. You assumed that.
Dont make baseless accusations or imply things about my character just because I tried to communicate what I meant concisely.
That's how I,and I think most of the commenters,am using it
By no means am I saying that's the only definition
Something doesn't add up here.
I tried to communicate what I meant concisely.
Well you might have to try harder.
Something doesn't add up here.
They're not mutually exclusive and I clarified multiple times afterwards..
referred to the definition as the "way I was using it" multiple times.
How about you read things a bit more carefully instead of being condescending :)
I won't be replying from now,you've demonstrated that you won't acknowledge things I say,whether about the argument at hand or your attitude towards me.
I somewhat agree with you. I agree with the basic concept of treating others (including children) with a basic level of respect, but some of it's a bit over the top.
The "you must be quiet" bit was a bit weird, the bus driver was listening for trains, so I think that's fair enough, but it seems oddly specific for a book about general respect. Not talking out of turn and allowing others to speak is a bit of a grey area. It is important to make sure you allow others to speak and not talk over others, but for some it would be better to encourage them to speak up as well if they're less inclined to do so.
I have no real issue with greeting a bus driver, being a rule may be a bit over the top, but they were probably just trying to make it rhyme, which is often going to interfere with the message. If the bus driver's an arsehole, then sure I'm not going to greet them.
I haven't read the other books, perhaps some of the others deal with encouraging children to speak up and have more confidence.
I agree the book is somewhat problematic, there are certainly people I can't respect. The book is not going to reach children who could probably do with a lesson on respect, nor is it particularly relevant to those children. This book seems more aimed at those who are already respectful and it has the potential to make them overly polite, particularly in situations that don't warrant it. It also misses the opportunity to teach children to have respect for themselves, which is important and often overlooked, particularly in children who have been neglected or abused.
@Miss B: I think that @Rupture's point was that the title and content seemed to have undertones of critical race theory / communist china theory and approach which isn't good to expose children to.
Having a look at the authors other titles, it seems to be more innocent than that, but it's good to be cautious when dealing with your children.
So you read the book and then formed the opinion? Or just burst out for nothing. First two pages talked about respecting parents, grandparents, and mentors, for sure as a guardian you would be able to make a kid understand the right circumstances?
'Respect your elders'….'Greeting the bus driver should be a new rule'….'you must be quiet'….'don't talk out of turn'..literal quotes from the book…why force this kind of behaviour on kids when they are naturally going to treat people respectfully if those people deserve their respect. Ie, I don't deserve my kids unwavering respect for merely being their parent or kids should be quiet because its inconvenient. You people are missing the big picture because this is what you were taught growing up and it shows.
Do you get into a bus with a frown on your face and not greet the driver until he has truly 'deserved' your respect?
The kind words in the book don't mean unwavering respect, those are merely an encouragement to use the kind words.
As I wrote above, it is about explaining the difference, and sure enough the book is merely a helpful tool for that.
Assuming things about someone's background and upbringing is certainly not the way in a respectful conversation.
Lol. You must be a joy to be around.
it takes a lot of humility to be respectful to someone who does not deserve it or has been disrespectful to you. you dont owe any respect, at the same time you do not need to put anyone down because you think your view is better or right.
You can give respect without giving away your peace and power.
Respect, for me, is acknowledging that someone else has as much right and purpose to be on this planet as I do, whether I personally like them or hate them.
Shit on me and I don't like you, I sure as hell ain't gonna give you my peace, but I can still give you common respect. That costs nothing.
Nobody needs to earn your respect as you will need to earn theirs first, as per your opinion.
If you don't give, you never get. Hence why everyone should give respect to everyone else out there at least to begin with. I believe this is exactly what the book should be teaching people like you - should be giving everyone respect unless they have done wrong onto you.
Can you please tell me what your teritary education was and what kind of white collar job you are doing currently? Just need to figure out if you deserve respect or not.
It is opinions like this explains why this book needs to be written.
Should have been handed out to the protestors, which were apparently 'angry young males'
Should hand this out to the cops that pushed over a 70 year old lady and pepper sprayed her in the face when she already on the ground.
Two snowflakes downvoted you 🙄. Seriously do they think its okay to push old people over…
I heard the police were handing this out at the protests in Melbourne today.
While beating people???
If it teaches people to be respectful of other people's religions I don't think it will do well on Ozbargain.
Thanks. Sent the link to my daughter and she gave me the finger.
Which one?
All of them.
It says the finger, must be singular, can't be a high five or victory.
Requisite reading before commenting on posts
Funny we need a book these days to teach respect
I know right?
Back in my day we transferred our knowledge through the spoken word only. Papyrus hadn't even been invented yet.
I Choose to Be Respectful
In my day, we chose you Pikachu.
Good dad joke
I choo-choo-Choose You ♥️
Do they sell this for adults too?
Thanks!
I hope it teaches kids how to respect those who don't know that plurals don't need apostrophes. :-)
i like the art
Remember to be respectful when on Oz-B
Especially when replying to comments from JV
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