Do You Ever Get Jealous of Those with Money?

Trying2SaveABuck on 18/10/2018 - 15:02
Last edited 18/10/2018 - 15:17

I work 2 jobs 6 days a week around 47 hours a week. I was at my second job chatting to a member off staff when he told me he worked 3 days a week (maybe 24 hour a week) and basically worked for the sake of getting out of the house.

He was divorced and his two kid had recently moved out of home and was saying his family was loaded and his parents essentially paid for his house and his car and literally if he needed money he would call and ask and it was just a matter of how much $$$ he wanted.

It was at the moment I was like FML what do you mean you just ask and his response was ‘yeah If I want to go on holiday I just call dad and say dad I need a little bit of money like 20k and I jet set’

My first response was ‘20k! WTF that’s not a little money that’s massive’ his response was that’s nothing when I went to buy my son his 1st car his parents shelled out of a NEW BWM with extras and that was easily 80k’ and that ‘if he needed a million that wouldn’t be a problem’
He then told me basically his whole life paid for he has studied got his masters etc but had never struggle or worry about paying bills/rent/mortgage because he was 1 phone call away from cash

now lets get this straight he is a decent guy looked after his kids his wife left him for no good reason and left the kid behind and if he hadn’t told me his parents were multi-millionaires I wouldn’t of picked it. In no way was he gloating he was someone shocked I didn’t have such a safety net (my parents where not rich) and this only came up because I was saying how if I won the powerball this Thursday I’d pay off my house and probably change to 3 days a week like him

Now I like to think I’m not a vindictive man and generally I don’t care how rich someone is but that night left work a bit jealous because my whole life feels like a consent struggle to survive and achieve better and there was someone who basically been handed everything i wish i had…

Just wondering if i the only one?

For the record im not bitter or anything happy for my college just wish it was ME! sometimes

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  • popcornready on 20/10/2018 - 18:07
    -1

    This thread summarises the Tall Poppy Syndrome in Australia.

  • Gelato on 20/10/2018 - 18:21

    with the work i do, i get to know how much people earn. most of them earn 5 figures per month, at first i was really curious what they do and how they spend but as times goes by, im numb. though i still feel like theyre earning another currency (e.g. monopoly money) but its aud!

  • MessyG on 20/10/2018 - 18:43

    I agree with the people who've said jealousy can be good in that it shines a light on what you want from your life, it can give you direction. I come across people like this a lot bu what can you do? I wouldn't dwell on it. I've had to fight tooth and nail for everything in life and sometimes I wish someone would hand me a big pile of easy but it's just not the way things are. Can't change it, so can only make it better for my kids future. And you know, this guys wife has left him a single parent and that's really rough. I think I'd rather not have the free money if it meant keeping my family together (although both would be ace).

  • dufflover on 20/10/2018 - 19:04
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    buy my son his 1st car his parents shelled out of a NEW BWM with extras and that was easily 80k

    Hey, gotta make sure their son is well respected with a high-yield investment vehicle for his first grad job at a big bank ya know
    :P

  • MadTacoWarrior on 21/10/2018 - 05:36
    +1

    Yes, when I am playing Monopoly.

  • IMadeYouReadThis on 21/10/2018 - 12:04

    I don't earn a lot but I am very happy with my life in general, I spend quality time with my wife and a newborn daughter. Yes, I do sometime feel jealous when I see people who are born with silver spoon…but that's life…I don't think too much of it and try to satisfy myself with what I have!

  • Dack Smith on 21/10/2018 - 12:26

    Society is a better place with abundant jealousy.

  • [Deactivated] on 21/10/2018 - 15:22

    I wouldn't say I'm jealous, just envious of their life and bloodline they have been born into. You can't exactly choose the family you're put into, so there's little point in pondering what ifs.

  • YoungQuan on 22/10/2018 - 08:03

    having resentment towards money and wealth is what keeps most people poor. It does not help you in any way. Instead of hating on the guy, you should have enquired what did the guy's family do to accumulate such wealth? In a market economy wealth represents the massive value to society that these people have provided.

    • Trying2SaveABuck on 22/10/2018 - 08:57
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      Do you even read my post?

      There is no 'resentment' at all im pretty good mates with the bloke :D

  • minotaurian on 22/10/2018 - 09:08

    Earning money the hard way is like beating Kotor or Cuphead. Getting money from parents is like putting in the Konami cheat code in, there is no satisfaction when you win.

  • lostn on 22/10/2018 - 11:52
    +1

    No.

    I'm far from wealthy. But I'm happy with my standard of living. It could be a lot worse. I'm grateful for what I have.

    The rich don't really have anything I don't have that I desperately want. Yachts, super cars, beach houses, private jets, to me they are a waste of money and if I had that kind of money I wouldn't be buying them anyway. Mega wealth is something I see as being nice, not something I actively crave. As long as I have enough money to live a decent standard of living and I'm not in poverty, living from paycheck to paycheck, I'm ok. I can afford the things I need and some of the things I want. I save well and don't buy unnecessary things that will amuse me for a short time and then get put away.

    The only thing I dream of that's beyond my reach is being able to travel often and not have to work. But if you save well, you can do one holiday a year.

    You can live a comfortable life on low income if you don't have any vices (cigs, alcohol, drugs), don't buy stuff you don't use often (designer clothing, watches, jewellery, accessories), don't buy gadgets that seem cool at first but gather dust once the honeymoon is over, don't change phones once a year, don't fine dine often. If your hobbies are cheap like reading, TV, and you buy your video games on Steam/Humble sales, you can very easily cover your costs of living and build up savings. If your gadgets need to be the latest and greatest, then you will envy those on higher income.

    If I had money I would not live as lavishly as some people do. I would not own any islands or yachts, nor would I play golf. I would retire, and travel the world. I would drive a nicer car than I have now, but it won't be excessive. It would likely be a Tesla X. My house would be nicer, but not a mansion. I would donate a substantial amount each year to Alzheimer's research (because it hits very close to home for me). I would pledge a lot of money to Kickstarters and Patreons for projects/channels I'm interested in. And that's about it. I wouldn't flaunt my wealth and would very much prefer to be a 'stealth' rich person.

    I have bought some gear that I only use for flights. And I don't fly all that often…

    I can't count how many tablets and laptops I have bought that only got occasional use. Some of these were purchased because they were decently discounted, but I otherwise didn't need or want it. I bought it because I would need it on those one or two occasions where I need access when I'm not in reach of a computer. At home, I very much prefer the desktop. I don't use PT because I drive, so there's no use for them there. I am reconsidering my need to buy these things. I've resisted many deals now, though there is still some way to go.

  • billyb67 on 22/10/2018 - 12:05

    I sort of feel sorry for those people with loads of money because many of them have no concept of the value of money..

    The more they earn the more they spend on ridiculous things..

    I worked like a donkey for my dollars, no way I'm wasting them on useless things..

    • [Deactivated] on 22/10/2018 - 22:50
      +1

      can i interest you in some eneloops?

    • Baghern on 25/10/2018 - 10:21
      +1

      Im pretty sure the people who earn less than you say the same thing about you…

      Its not that people have no concept of money whether poor or wealthy.

      The issue is most people regardless of wealth are terrible at math.

      If you're wealthy you just happen to have more money to waste, and its more obvious you have little concept of money. I've came across many poor people who still struggle with not wasting money despite working hard for the little they have.

  • smurfinaus on 28/10/2018 - 18:23

    Isnt there a saying about not missing what you never have?. For me, my family has never been that well off — just doing OK to keep above bills etc. Sure i did look at times while growing up (and working in decent jobs for me) feeling some envy of those who were better off (middle and above for me), and always wishing i had more money (i admit to myself im terrible at saving…and i know what i need to do, but putting into practice…..nah).., but i am personally OK.I could be worse i guess :)

  • icejester on 29/10/2018 - 22:39

    He might have a lot of money given to him without much effort

    But does he seem happy?

    Like look deep into his eyes
    would you like to trade places with him?

    Perhaps you're working really hard now but it seems like you have good work ethos. One day you might run into a good opportunity, work hard and become wealthy from a good business idea

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