Im staying at a friends place in South Korea for 2 weeks, then we're both heading to Japan for 1 week. Do you think paying for his Japanese accommodation the 'proper'/'fair' thing to do?
Pay for accomodation for friend?
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Thanks for the reply, i've booked the accommodation for us and i guess we'll see what happens from here, he feels very awkward about it and my family has been giving me conflicting advice,but I think he'll get over it, after all the trip is about having some good times.
i clicked no because i do not think proper/fair is right for the situation , its very nice of you if you offer , but they are not doing it as a quid pro quo , or at least i wouldn't see it that way if i was lending someone my spare room/couch before traveling somewhere together, i think mskeggs idea is great.
Unless your friend asked for half of the living costs whilst staying with them, I'd say pay for the hotel in Japan.
I think it would be seen as generous and a kind gesture if you paid.
You would probably find he is reluctant to accept such generosity.
Aim for a situation where you can both save face and have an excellent holiday, by perhaps insisting on paying for accommodation but then allowing your friend to treat you to a special meal or similar experience in return.
Some of the best nights of my life have been when somebody is repaying the generosity you have shown earlier, as nobody is especially worried about the bill and everyone is focussed on having a great time.
And that flows both ways. Being an OzB person, I hesitate to 'blow out' my budget, except when I am repaying somebody else's generosity to me and I know custom allows me to splurge in a way I usually wouldn't.