Advice on Where to Buy Sarees and whether to haggle

[Deactivated] on 18/11/2015 - 22:28
Last edited 18/11/2015 - 23:40

Hi there :)

We're attending one of my husband's colleague's wedding early next year. He is having a traditional indian wedding. I usually would wear a chowli ,a long skirt and one of those long scarves that goes round the waist and over the shoulder (a langahra?),something like this or a crop top and skirt version of this and then accessorise with indian-style bangles.

Somehow, I don't think this would be appropriate for this wedding. The couple are very traditional and might prefer that I wear a saree.I went window shopping in dandenong last weekend and I was taken aback by the variety of material, styles and ways to wear/tie the sarees.

Hubby's colleague and his soon-to-wife are from south india.What kind of saree and chowlie style should I get? Is it better to buy instore or online. If in store,can you/do you haggle on the price of sarees or would that be considered impolite.

Any advice/suggestion/feedback is welcomed.

Thank you :)

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p.s: Almost forgot to ask (oops!): what should hubby wear?

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  • shadowarrior on 18/11/2015 - 22:43
    +1

    Get your hubby to wear kurta pajama. Get a nice designer kurta (with some fancy embroidery etc) with a simple matching pajama.
    You can wear a traditional saree (which will also need a matching blouse, and you will need a matching saree petticoat).
    You can also wear a salwar kameez (pretty comfy and easier to wear/manage than a saree).

    Edit: Oh and this a nice simple way of wearing a saree
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ftq9_kEHDmo

    • [Deactivated] on 18/11/2015 - 22:48

      Thanks. Any style that you like? We don't watch bollywood movies, so we have no clue what is the style of the moment.

      • shadowarrior on 18/11/2015 - 22:55
        +3

        You shouldn't follow 'in trend' styles while selecting kurta/saree/salwars. Pick one which has a simple yet unique design and suits you. I can try and get you some examples though.
        Tell me about you and your hubby…. fair skinned/tanned? slim/average/love OZB Hungry Jacks coupons? tall/short/average?

        • [Deactivated] on 18/11/2015 - 23:10

          I'm tallish ( 167 cm). Slim. Fit. Tanned. I often get mistaken for being Brazilian, French or Indian (in that order!). I'm actually Mauritian.

          Hubby is tall (186 cm). Fit.Built.Has a 6-pack despite his love of cheesecakes.He gets mistaken for ..erm I'm not sure what he gets mistaken for. He's biracial.He's tanned but with pale eyes.He's the prettier one of the 2 of us, which is the only reason I put up with him :p He really, really wants a sash and I've kind of promised him one.

          We're pescetarians, so no Hungry Jacks,KFC ..etc

          Edit: I might call it a night. Need to get up early tomorrow.

        • shadowarrior on 18/11/2015 - 23:24
          +1

          @wicket1120:
          lol :)

          For you:
          How about something like these:
          http://nickys.com.au/product/romantic-badri-silk-gold-and-ra…
          http://nickys.com.au/product/flawless-badri-silk-cream-and-r…
          http://nickys.com.au/product/gorgeous-badri-silk-gold-and-ro…
          http://nickys.com.au/product/luxurious-badri-silk-cream-and-…

          For your hubby:
          A Sherwani like the ones listed here along with a chunni (The Sash :P ):
          http://styleindia.com.au/mens-wear/partywear-sherwani.html

          Don't order from those sites though, get an idea what style/colour you like, go to a shop and buy them after trying them on. If they don't have a changing room, make sure they have an exchange policy for size.

          Not sure how well you can haggle….haggling is an art…takes years of practice to master :P And Indians are one of the experts in the art of haggling, so haggling against Indians as non-Indians might be futile :P You can try 'get me a good price for both of them' or 'throw the chunni for free/reduced along with this and you have a deal' and see if they bite.

        • [Deactivated] on 18/11/2015 - 23:34

          @shadowarrior: Thank you :)

        • shadowarrior on 19/11/2015 - 00:17
          +2

          @wicket1120: That will cost you 1 pack of Eneloops. Sending you the bill soon. :)

        • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 12:13

          @shadowarrior: I had brunch with the bride-to-be today. She would rather I wore a saree. She even offered to 'lend' me one of hers for the occasion. It's a brand new one that she had bought on a whim and never wore because it's too "see-through" and according to her, the colour doesn't suit her darker skin.It looks like this one but more golden/champagne coloured than white.

          Like it?

        • shadowarrior on 19/11/2015 - 12:50

          @wicket1120: That link re-directs to a blank website. Save the image and upload it to imgur and get me an imgur link?

        • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 12:53

          @shadowarrior:

          Here you go :link . That's the one she meant. I like it.

        • shadowarrior on 19/11/2015 - 13:07
          +2

          @Jar Jar Binks: That looks really nice :)
          @Wicket
          About the 'see through' part, just make sure you have a nice matching petticoat and a good matching 'designer' blouse to go with it. And I think you should start looking at some jewelries now. Nice simple yet unique style jewelry. Don't pick anything too gawdy. If it's more golden/champagne colour, then try to match it with golden jewelry (you don't need gold, but gold plated will do just fine). If it has any silver work on the saree, then you may be able to match it with silver jewelry.

        • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 17:28

          @shadowarrior:

          Clueless Aussie here.

          Gold jewellery, yeah, but if, say, a dolled-up Wiki-as-Desi found herself unable to resist the temptation to sport a yellow bindi on her forehead, on the wedding day, would this be a cultural faux pas?

          (Also, do you personally know anyone who has been sent blind or died in a vindaloo or other hot-curry food-fight? It has always struck me that dining-desi, always, live on the edge…)

          (Thanks!)

        • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 19:07

          @shadowarrior: Thanks for your expert advice , mate.Much appreciated :)

          JJB + Wiki

        • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 19:14

          @Tas:

          I'm so hungry now :(

          Completely off-topic, but you wouldn't happen to know what our dear friend, the Negger, is on about in the other post would you?

        • shadowarrior on 19/11/2015 - 19:17
          +3

          @Tas:

          I am not much of an expert of Indian culture either.. but here's an attempt :)

          Bindis are more of an accessory these days. Except well if it's her wedding day, then she has to put on the red sindoor (along with red bindi and she has to wait till her husband puts it on her head first). If someone wants to wear a bindi, of any colour, it's really up to them. They usually match with the colour of their dress. If she doesn't wear a bindi, no one would care. (except maybe the 80 year old grandma who will start embarrassing her in front of everyone about how she cried for ice cream when she was 1 yr old…and she would have looked prettier with a bindi).

          About Vindaloo.. well there's no such food in India called Vindaloo.. :P Not sure about living on the edge part, but not every Indian can eat spicy food. (Don't get me started on how the 'hot/spicy' taste the Indian restaurants here add to their food is not even proper spicey food..it's just poorly cooked too much chili with no underlying taste). I love dabbing my hot dogs with Death Sauce, but I know hundreds of Indians who would run around the house if they bite on a chili :P

        • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 19:40

          @shadowarrior: Thanks.

          Google indicates that the English 'Phall Curry' may give your Death Sauce a 'run' for its money..

          Stay safe. :)

        • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 19:41
          +1

          @Jar Jar Binks: As you saw, just updated other thread for the no-real-benefit of ms. or mr. maximum.

          If eating with the cubs, only let them use spoons. You know why.

          You stay safe, too. ;)

          Later. Also hungry.

  • BigTed on 19/11/2015 - 12:49
    +1

    I went to an Indian wedding for a work colleague a little while ago.
    While most of us westerners wore suits and the like, one young lady wore a sari.
    She was a gorgeous pale red-head (and that's saying something because I'm not usually a fan of the rangas) and she looked absolutely stunning in her green sari.
    If you can pull it off I'd say go for it.

    • [Deactivated] on 19/11/2015 - 12:54
      +1

      She can pull it off. She looks exotic:)

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