Do Men OzBargainers Buy Their Partners Flowers?

treeman on 09/11/2014 - 21:32

Just curious?

Do Men Ozbargainers Buy Their Partners Flowers?

Wondering, as my Wife loves her flowers, and nags me all year to get her some. I usually buy her flowers maybe twice a year. But she would probably secretly like it to be around 4 times a year.
She's not picky and happy with $10-$15 flowers which is usually all that I spend on her, just likes the romantic tradition of getting flowers and being surprised.
But I don't like getting her flowers, I would rather get her something of value, but she likes them, so I do as I said get her some a couple of times per year.

So Ozbargainers how often do you buy your partner flowers?

Thanks.

Poll Options

  • 67
    Yes, Once Per Year
  • 32
    Yes, Twice Per Year
  • 17
    Yes, Three Per Year
  • 83
    Yes, Four Or More Per Year
  • 8
    Yes, but only Garden Flowers that are free
  • 17
    Never, Partner is not into Flowers
  • 148
    Never, I don't buy my Partner Flowers as they are a waste of money
General Discussion

Comments

  • lenlynn on 10/11/2014 - 20:27
    +3

    I do like them but i tell my partner not to cos it's a waste of money but I buy them for myself maybe once a year for $15. I rather he spends his money on food for me as I know when I really really really want them (not often) and then i can get them for myself.

  • [Deactivated] on 10/11/2014 - 20:40

    I like flowers but on the plants. I don't like the idea of decaying plant genitals on hair or as a gift and I have brainwashed my so and now she agrees with me.

  • retiredfeline on 10/11/2014 - 20:44
    +5

    I bought some cauli flowers last time. They were cheap but she was not impressed. I wonder why… ;)

  • Aneurism on 10/11/2014 - 21:04
    +1

    Chicks like it when you steal it from someone else's lawn

  • Funky Kong on 10/11/2014 - 21:50
    +1

    Buy them???

    I take ladies' flowers away.

  • Davo1111 on 10/11/2014 - 21:59
    +1

    i just get them from sleeping patients at hospitals

  • deek on 10/11/2014 - 23:07
    +2

    And I give you this bash.org quote:

    http://bash.org/?151227

    In summary, to prove your true love, buy her potatoes.

    • Astro551 on 11/11/2014 - 12:15

      ah love this bad boy.

    • scrimshaw on 11/11/2014 - 19:00
      +2

      If your wife is Latvian, be careful, she will cheat with potato.

      Source: Am Latvian husband.

      • cpho on 13/11/2014 - 00:14

        Clause impossible. Who have potato to cheat on.

  • mickotron on 10/11/2014 - 23:08
    +11

    Did it once out of the blue, the missus' workmates were busy trying to convince her I'd done it out of guilt of cheating…

    • lenlynn on 11/11/2014 - 16:01

      There's no win being a guy sometimes!

  • teehee on 10/11/2014 - 23:21
    +8

    if she's really into flowers then buy them occasionally.

    The very fact that you have a reliable gift that is affordable and you know she will enjoy receiving, makes it a bargain every time my friend.

  • Cluster on 10/11/2014 - 23:24
    +1

    Ozbargainers grow their own flowers. Wife sees husband dutifully weeding her patch every weekend and she appreciates his effort.

    • [Deactivated] on 11/11/2014 - 10:41
      +7

      Wife sees husband dutifully weeding her patch every weekend and she appreciates his effort.

      Does he actually mean what I think he means? or is it just my dirty mind?

  • Geewhizz on 11/11/2014 - 07:13
    +3

    I told hubby when we first started going out that if he wanted to bring me flowers, to have them still attached to the plant. It's the gift that keeps on giving, and they're a fraction of the price.

  • Skramit on 11/11/2014 - 08:54
    +1

    Yes i buy her flowers for her birthday and our anniversary. I make sure to get them delivered to her work for 5x the effect. She gets to feel nice with all her colleagues looking on. I like that :)

  • Lilstudent on 11/11/2014 - 09:07
    +4

    If you are concerned about something of value think about this -

    Go to the local small biz florist. That way your $10-$15 isn't going to the big man it is going to a small biz owner who works really hard, probably gets up at 2am to go to the flower market, selects the freshest flowers and styles them.

    As for their use, they are a natural air freshener for your house for the week. No doubt it puts a smile on her face all week when she sees them, when she receives them it would brighten up the crappiest day. You surely can't put a price on her happiness?

    FYI yes I'm a girl. Not enough guys know the value of flowers to a woman!

  • [Deactivated] on 11/11/2014 - 09:09
    +2

    Yes, I also have to buy a new purse or bag each year. It needs to be of a certain value and give her the receipt in case she wants to exchange it.

    It makes for a very calm relationship. ;-)

  • Vallani on 11/11/2014 - 09:23
    +6

    Yes, they're a waste of money, but much cheaper than a divorce.

  • SupeNintendoChalmers on 11/11/2014 - 09:47
    +1

    Would Eneloops fashioned into flower shapes count?

  • pitufon on 11/11/2014 - 10:03

    My GF likes flowers in the house, buy her a new bunch every time the previous one gets old. You don't need to spend much on a massive fancy bunch. Coles/Safeways have cheap ones and they are just the same. Or have a good relationship with your local florist.

  • sal78 on 11/11/2014 - 10:58
    +8

    honestly $10 - $15 is not too much to put a smile on the person you love's face. I think it's ok to be shrewd even stingy but never to your wife/husband. Life's too short.

    Read the book 5 Languages of love. Your wife's love language could be gifts. Mine is quality time and words of affection. My husband's is act of service.

    It's just like men dont get excited over a tie or a shirt. My husband would prefer a pack of golfballs or an eb games giftcard.
    If your wife wants flowers then get it.

    Its important to be shrrwd but yet be generous in life.

  • Archi on 11/11/2014 - 12:08
    +1

    fortunately for me my wife only likes one type of flower which is available in the November spring time.

    so she gets them for our anniversary and that's it… once a year…

  • le3lee on 11/11/2014 - 12:13
    +1

    my bf prefers to by me a good quality scented candle for around the $30 mark.

    • easternculture on 11/11/2014 - 12:46
      +6

      how about i find him a cheaper deal and he can buy you 2

      • le3lee on 12/11/2014 - 08:16

        Oops I forgot to mention, he gets it cheap..3x glasshouse for $50. They're usually around $30 ish for one. :p

        • Archi on 12/11/2014 - 08:42

          that's not bad, where does he buy them from?

        • le3lee on 12/11/2014 - 11:17

          @Archi:

          It's a mate's gift shop..so mate's rates. Would have loved to share :(

  • itstuan on 11/11/2014 - 12:27
    +1

    Some men on here shouldn't have a gf to begin with. But that's another story. Now, don't wait till your partner leave you or cheat on you with another man who buy her flowers, to start buying them flowers. Thats a bit too late.

    • deek on 11/11/2014 - 13:47
      +3

      If your partner is willing to cheat or leave because you didn't buy flowers, there is something fundamentally wrong with that relationship.

      There are other ways to show your love besides buying things. Perhaps occasionally tell your partner how you feel? Flowers are but one way. Choose whatever you feel is right for you both. Thinking about your partner is always a good start.

      • itstuan on 11/11/2014 - 14:49

        You got it wrong, when your partner loves flowers but you refuse to buy them flowers every now and then and choose to save few bucks instead. You're ignoring their needs and feelings. The inevitable means to happen.
        Hey, don't hold me for that :)

        • deek on 11/11/2014 - 15:58
          +1

          Not precisely. By not buying flowers, you're only neglecting one particular "want". That "want" may be fundamentally linked to the "need" of someone to be reassured that they're still loved. If you can satisfy that need some other way, then the flowers become meaningless. You're still assuring them that you love them, and their need is met.

        • itstuan on 11/11/2014 - 23:48

          @deek: what are you, some kind of wise man?

        • deek on 12/11/2014 - 00:13
          +2

          @mcp2kpro:
          Nah, I'm just a backyard philosopher. I'm prone to over-thinking things.

        • mboks on 12/11/2014 - 09:14
          +2

          I could like this a thousand times. I'm leaving my partner due to my feelings being ignored year in year out. You could be a good provider but trust me of you don't bother to find out what makes her happy and work with her to find that happiness, she will find someone who will.Or that person will find her. Trust me gents. If she loves romantic gestures such as flowers and you deny her this minor thing and others.. Eg buying her books when she tells you she'd really like a nice watch for bday/Christmas etc ie deciding what would be better for her… Then you are doomed. cumulative effect. A woman will tell you what she likes - listen and do it to the best you can.She will love you for it and be so grateful that you listened and care that she's happy and satisfied.God some of the guys here are sitting ducks.. She likes flowers and you tell her it's a waste of money?? Haha ticking time bomb

        • Ughhh on 12/11/2014 - 11:45

          @deek:

          You will never understand women

        • deek on 12/11/2014 - 12:08
          +1

          @JLove:

          I agree with you completely. I also believe that there should be some mystery to the opposite sex, so I'm happy not to understand. ;)

        • voteoften on 12/11/2014 - 12:24
          +3

          She may not even cheat with or "find" some other man.

          She may simply stop loving him. She may just leave because what's the point of being together if your needs are not being met.

          I stopped loving my first husband because he was happy to throw money at me, but not willing to personally do anything for me or our child. It was the biggest relief when we split. Shock, but no sadness at all. Not from my side. He was devastated and enraged. I was happy and peaceful. He had destroyed any love I had for him by denying my basic feelings so when it was over, it was happy times. Guess what? He's having the same problem with wife #2.

          If your wife has a flower fetish, then I reckon a guy should probably satisfy it from time to time. I'm a woman and I don't understand the satisfaction that is received by getting dead plants, but I know it's a common desire. If it is of such a nature that it has to be dead plants, well the man probably knew about this desire before he said I do.

        • [Deactivated] on 12/11/2014 - 12:51

          nvm

        • mboks on 13/11/2014 - 13:30
          +2

          @voteoften: lol Why is it so hard for guys to get this…pretty straight forward to me…Some simple rules with women,

          1. You don't have to have the last word, sometimes just let it be- go along with it and try to explain your point later/ not with the point of changing her mind, but just so she understands why you had a differing opinion.You'll be surprised, she might be so willing to accomodate your opinion afterward and will be grateful that you backed off - sometimes women go through a 'crazy' phase when they don't want to hear you-PMS/other hormones/unknown causes.

          2.Find out what she likes…pick on something she is on about in a conversation.Women will say things all the time she might say…I enjoyed going to the shops at x, loved walking through x etc,if you're ever at the shops and she likes something- make a note of what that was.go back and buy it..if you did this even twice or thrice a year, you will be rewarded with love and sex.women are cerebral about things like this. occasionally ask what she'd like .then do it

          3.Love her.Tell her you love her.Tell her when you are laughing about something or having fun together.Tell her she's wonderful.mean it.'I love you' cards generally mean nothing if you 're not doing the above or whats important to her.if she likes ghastly plastic flowers, let her get them or check out pinterest with her for other inspiration.she might find something else more tasteful.

          4.tell her she looks good/beautiful.Mean it.pretend if you have to.take a minute to actually look. Everytime she's out somewhere there are at least 50 guys checking her out.they might not say anything but they looking.Remember that

          5.Even if she stays she will be going through the motions of the relationship if needs are not being met.

          6.Women were created to be just loved.The men who get this are rewarded with glowing, satisfied, appreciative partners

          7.Spend some money on her, on things she actually likes

          I've missed a few things but I think these cover the basics

        • itstuan on 14/11/2014 - 10:20
          +1

          @mboks: unfortunately most guys on here proud to be ozbargain hunters, what they dont understand is, love doesn't come with discount :)

  • boomramada on 11/11/2014 - 13:08

    based on the pole results, I think its wise to buy flowers :)

  • Lionmaru-G on 11/11/2014 - 13:32
    +1

    A true OzBargainer do not waste money on flowers.
    Ive successfully brainwashed my wife, initially she thought flowers are so romantic. I told her, honey flower dont last long, they are bloody expensive. Id prefer save up those precious flower money over a year or two and treat you with a nice handbag or something.

    Ever since then she never bug me about buying her flowers nor CARDS!!

    • itstuan on 11/11/2014 - 14:50
      +1

      But you will eventually buy her a handbag. Just saying..

      • Lionmaru-G on 11/11/2014 - 15:25
        +1

        well thats true but id rather buy her a handbag which is more useful than to spend $ on flowers knowing that they will only last a week or so.

        A true ozbargainer is about spending $ wisely. Not being a tight arse.

    • Aneurism on 11/11/2014 - 15:57
      +1

      Maybe the neighbour might be buying her flowers instead :)

  • Flying Ace on 11/11/2014 - 13:59
    +1

    I have bought my girlfriend in Vietnam flowers over the Internet. The first time I did it the company said that they delivered them but my girlfriend never received them! So someone in Vietnam has some flowers from some random Australian :o

    • lenlynn on 11/11/2014 - 16:04
      +2

      Or maybe the company didn't send them at all!!

  • [Deactivated] on 11/11/2014 - 14:08

    What happened to "love don't cost a thing"?

    You think you gotta keep me iced
    You don't
    You think I'm gonna spend your cash
    I won't
    Even if you were broke
    My love don't cost a thing

    All that matter is
    That you treat me right
    Give me all the things I need
    That money can't buy …

    Jlo

  • ge on 11/11/2014 - 16:03

    Aldi's $5 flowers do the work.

  • Joyoz on 11/11/2014 - 16:27
    +4

    I personally think flowers are expensive and money could be spent else where. I am a single female. It's more about feeling appreciated than the flowers for some people. My friend and her kids picked me roses from their relatives garden recently and it was super sweet and they were beautiful. I am not use to people doing things like so I appreciated it.

    I won roses to send around and gave them to my friends to get delivered to someone else. The neighbours accepted flowers intended for a friend of mine. We could see them from the window.

    • syousef on 11/11/2014 - 16:33
      +1

      Sounds to me from your attitude you're the kind of lady that should be much more use to it :)

      (Please don't misunderstand. Friendly compliment only. I'm married and I don't cheat.)

  • syousef on 11/11/2014 - 16:31
    +1

    Everyone calling these a waste of money, do you refuse to buy your children baloons for their birthday parties too? They're temporary decorations. You don't spend a fortune on them but a small spend occasionally isn't so bad.

    • lenlynn on 11/11/2014 - 16:38
      +3

      Well it depends on how the receiver perceives the gift doesn't it? Whatever you spend on, if it doesn't make the person happy it is a waste of money.

      e.g. if a female thinks flowers are a waste of money and would prefer oysters (in a previous post haha), then flowers ARE a waste of money.

      • syousef on 11/11/2014 - 16:41
        +2

        Agreed. It depends on the RECEIVER not the giver's opinion.

    • shaybisc on 16/11/2014 - 19:51

      You can't plant a balloon bush.

  • 11112007 on 11/11/2014 - 16:39
    +1

    My misses said if i ever bought her flowers she would force me to eat them.

    So no, never.

    I use the money on video games instead. Her loss.

    • syousef on 11/11/2014 - 16:42
      +1

      I have the best comeback for that involving items with a floral pattern but if I post it I might get banned.

      • 11112007 on 11/11/2014 - 18:32
        +1

        Hahaha send it to me in a message, im keen

        • syousef on 12/11/2014 - 17:37

          Think edible. Think floral pattern. Think not safe for work. You'll get there without a PM.

      • easternculture on 11/11/2014 - 18:50

        me too , pm me

  • thirtysixd on 11/11/2014 - 17:03

    Have never bought my partner flowers

    Flowers is actually the code word for a BJ

  • imp on 11/11/2014 - 18:15

    Got a scoupon for 1 dozen roses that I'm waiting to use when I next buy something big that I dont need after seeing it on Ozbargain.

  • Main Man on 11/11/2014 - 19:13
    +1

    Aldi has roses for like $5-$10, I buy them weekly when doing the weekly shop. Easy peesy lemon squeezy

  • subywagon on 11/11/2014 - 20:28

    Cut flowers are a total waste of money. When I buy flowers (or plants) it's always something in a pot or that can be planted.. thus adding value to my property and scoring points with my significant other simultaneously.

  • The_Jackal on 11/11/2014 - 23:08

    Despite their perceived lack of value (to me), my wife loves flowers. The gesture of this transient gift of thoughtfulness is often more valuable than a gift that lasts. I used to balk at the cost until my wife became a florist. Now I understand why a decent bunch costs so much. Also cannot buy flowers anymore; it's like buying an IT guy last year's tech.

  • Geewhizz on 12/11/2014 - 08:14
    +4

    A tip for those who buy flowers from the supermarkets - VERY GENTLY 'pat them on the head'. If they're soft to the touch they're well and truly on their way out. If they're still reasonably fresh they will have a crisp feel to them.

  • calinya on 12/11/2014 - 09:10

    I buy myself flowers every fortnight from the Sydney Flower Markets so my partner doesn't buy any for me. It'd be nice if he did buy it sometimes :-)

  • smpantsonfire on 12/11/2014 - 12:42

    I buy put plants instead, they last way longer even if she neglects them, which she does and why I don't buy her flowers.

    I much prefer to buy her something useful like pens or new painting supplies, even iPhone cords because she rounds? Ribs those pretty quick and it's limited to one charge that has held up

    • lenlynn on 12/11/2014 - 15:58
      +1

      Bougainvillaes ftw for the non-gardener. No watering = flowers, watering = leaves.

  • jumppilot on 13/11/2014 - 01:51

    I like to buy the native flowers that Coles often sells for about $15. They last so much longer and smell great.

  • sauce2k on 13/11/2014 - 08:35

    Rarely but if you appreciate your partner it's nice to surprise him/her with a bunch of flowers. (Get them delivered to his/her work). If you don't want to spend too much check our little flowers on Facebook. 15 bucks a bunch and it's usually nice. My gf was super happy when I sent her flowers

  • [Deactivated] on 13/11/2014 - 15:45
    +3

    The more I'm reading this thread, the more I realise how little I know about women and the things you have to do to keep them happy. Somehow I doubt my wife has a mental checklist on all the things she has to do keep me from straying either.How the hell did we make it to our 10th anniversary?o.O …and its been a very eventful 10 years:from well-meaning friends trying to dissuade us from getting married by telling me that it was just lust, it would not work , that she was only marrying me so that she could get permanent residency in Australia and her friends telling her that I was a complete loser who wasn't going anywhere fast and that she could find so much better …to barely being able make ends meet for the first 8 months of our marriage because we were both studying full-time.Then there was:
    - the unplanned pregnancy with twins,
    - her,briefly,going on the pill which turned her into a she-hulk,
    - a serious health-scare,surgery,cultural differences, my absent-mindedness, her stubbornness…
    We must be two imperfect people who just completely, totally, refuses to give up on each other:) That's the only explanation I can find.That and a great sex life :p
    Please keep the advice coming..Its quite a fascinating read and it might get us through the next 50 years of "wedded bliss"

    • deek on 13/11/2014 - 16:38

      Nice post, JJB.

      Shared adversity is a great way to establish a strong bond with your partner. You both learn about how much you can trust and rely on one another. Sounds like you're in a strong position with your relationship, so just keep on doing what you're doing. Take any relationship advice with a little bit of scepticism, including anything I say. ;)

      Communication. If there's just one thing that a good relationship needs, it's communication. You have to be able to express your feelings to her, and be confident that you can express anything. Anything! Not just the good, but also the bad. Likewise for your partner. Only time and trust will allow you to get to that point. No amount of flowers will ever achieve that.

    • mboks on 19/11/2014 - 12:06

      You were genuinely interested in each other and each other's happiness and saw each other as just perfect.That and a great sex life.If nothing else these are the 2 most important and fundamentals.Good Job..!

  • Mysterious on 14/11/2014 - 02:37
    +1

    Commonly see them for $2-4 at Coles at the end of the night. Usually they're the lower quality flowers, but honestly, a real partner would be grateful whether its a rose or a cheap flower. It is the thought that counts most.

  • shaybisc on 16/11/2014 - 19:44

    I don't get cut flowers. They are a dead thing. I just looked it up and it seems that's a fairly typical male attitude.

    http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/10/28/why-men-should-give…

  • rompastompa on 17/11/2014 - 15:55

    Any recommendations to buy flowers online for delivery to Perth? :) Preferably a bargain ;)

  • [Deactivated] on 29/11/2014 - 13:10

    Had I the heavens' embroidered cloths,
    Enwrought with golden and silver light,
    The blue and the dim and the dark cloths
    Of night and light and the half light,
    I would spread the cloths under your feet:
    But I, being poor, have only my dreams;
    I have spread my dreams under your feet;
    Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

    Write her a poem. I like poems better than flowers :)

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